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August 2021 Update

Photo – February 2021

Hello Everyone! I hope you are doing well in spite of this new spike in Covid-19 Delta Variant. Wow it’s been a long time since I’ve posted–I feel like I have gradually shifted to a New Way of Being since I wrote last but I’m still figuring out exactly what that looks and feels like. I have a new wonderful office where I see clients in-person in the Indianapolis area and since I’ve been vaccinated I ask for masks to be worn by the unvaccinated. This is working out well!  The spiritually-minded, sensitive souls who find me seem to be a 50/50 mix of vaccinated and unvaccinated.  The unvaccinated are welcome–there are so many personal reasons and choices people make and that’s what makes our country great–freedom to choose. I’m for diversity and inclusion in every way for every human! I have strict policies and cleaning protocols to keep everyone safe so no worries.

For those of you not in my area, I offer distance Reiki sessions, intuitive coaching for empaths and highly sensitive people, spiritual counseling, and angel readings too by video or phone call.  More information here. I look forward to hearing from you soon! I have openings for more clients starting the 3rd week in September, 2021!

Since 2019 I’m taking a break from performing my music but I’m also creating and sharing more of my original songs of hope and healing which are actually ā€œReiki-Infused Musicā€! I’ve always called them Folk Rock Songs For the Soul but I could say For Healing the Soul!–listening to my songs can help balance your chakras and heal deep emotional wounds as they did for me when I wrote them …with Angelic help!  I didn’t know at the time my angels and guides were inspiring my songs and that my higher self was capable of infusing Reiki and healing codes in the songs but now I know this to be true!–and now I know it’s part of my purpose to help others!

I’ll be expanding and adding more songs here and on my websites in the coming months. You can find my debut album of original songs on iTunes, Apple Music, Amazon, and all worldwide platforms (just search Roxanne Smith. the title is A New Beginning) or better yet please buy and download them from my website: RoxanneSmithMusic.com.  Proceeds from my website store go to making more albums!–the angelic realm has helped me write 70 songs of hope and healing, 50 of which are copyrighted and ready to to be made into more albums. I’m excited to share them and perform them on YouTube.

Mostly I’ve been seeing clients in-person for sessions so the music will take time. But as a highly sensitive person and empath I’m always guided where to spend my energy each day. It’s exciting to see what unfolds as I trust the guidance I receive.

This past year has been a year of personal deep inner healing in ways I didn’t even know was possible.  You may relate to breaking out of the cocoon stage and you aren’t quite ready to fly ….but you can see it–over the rainbow, the brilliantly colorful future awaits you and is beckoning …but perhaps you are disoriented, not sure how to BE yet because the cocoon stage turned you to mush haha! Be Patient and Trust are the words I keep hearing and all will fall into place step by step.

I’m already feeling it as the Lions Gate energies of 8-8-21 seemed to give me a surge of energy on the 9th that I haven’t felt in a long time . I cleaned and uncluttered my garage that day lol and it wasn’t even on my To Do list.  I feel it was symbolic of being the first place I arrive and leave my house daily which tells me to clear out old debris in my life in the mornings and before bedtime to sleep better and have more energy for all the things that I want to do. Sounds great! I’m excited!

I’m hoping all of you sensitive souls out there are experiencing similar growth and expansion of your wings–through insights and inspirations and deep clearing of old wounds to clear the path to your true self and true purpose on the planet. It’s a roller-coaster ride as we follow our joy and trust that our sorrows are temporary and that more joy is just around the corner.  Our platform to take off and fly will just appear before us easily and comfortably!  I’m counting on it!–I trust and believe!

I turn 60 years old on September 9th and my family has a big celebration planned. I keep telling myself, ā€œIt’s just a numberā€ā€“because it makes no sense that I am that age.  How can it be?!  I’m a kid at heart and feeling younger and healthier every year so I decided we are going to Disney for my birthday! Yay I’m ignoring the number and will keep acting the age that I feel. 38 lol. Yeah that feels right.😃

Thank you for reading and being part of this community. 

Sending you comfort, and warm healing wishes,

Roxanne šŸ˜‡šŸ’–āœØ 

Latest Channeled Angel Message

Hello Everyone!Ā Hope everyone is doing well!Ā  Sending you so much love and comfort as we continue to endure this uncertain time of ups and downs.Ā I’ve been busy working happily with one on one with clients so I haven’t been channeling my team of 6 Archangels as much. So I am very happy to share this Channeled Angel Message that I received a while back to share for most of this year through the present time in 2021.Ā If you are drawn to see this message at a later time then it’s message is still relevant and meant for you. This is a Message from the Archangel Realm lead by Archangel Muriel to support Empaths, Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), and Lightworkers channeled through me, Roxanne Smith.Ā Ā Ā This important group consciousness message came through as one voice from my core team of 6 Archangels to give comfort, encouragement, and guidance.Ā The names of all of the Archangels are at the end in the signature.

Here is the Channeled Angel Message:

“Dear Sensitive Empathic Souls,

We are so happy to be communicating with you today through our dear Roxanne.Ā  So much is turbulent in your worlds at the moment and we hear you wish for inner peace.Ā  Please know this peaceful feeling you yearn for is around the corner as you clear out layers of pain from old wounds.Ā  These painful feelings are overwhelming you at times but you hold onto hope that it will be short-lived.Ā  You have always come out the other side of these things even stronger so you are hoping for the same result.Ā  But it keeps getting harder you are saying. Ā 

Yes we see how it appears so but actually you are just stronger to handle more of what is dense in the world and what your soul has protected you from feeling until you were strong enough not to be pulled down by it.  Don’t believe the messages that you are shedding. You are here to help the planet and you have taken human form so that you can understand the hardships others go through by experiencing it yourselves.  You have great abilities to work through and rise above any negativity so please remember this.  You are a shining light of pure love and your being gives others hope. When you feel overwhelmed then it’s time to rest and be kind to yourself.  

If you have a sanctuary to cry and grieve your hardships see this as a blessing and remember times you leaned on others because you did not understand that you have the power within you to heal yourself and stand on your own 2 feet.  It’s okay if you depend on others for some things because you are always giving—always giving your energy to help out however you can and this is an exchange of energy that is valuable.  You will feel better about your life if you have ways to be independent financially too. Be kind to yourself if you struggle with this area in life.  Remember to call on us angels for help because we cannot help you unless you ask. It is best to ask for what’s in your heart instead of money.  For example, ask for clients who are a good match for what you have to offer in the quantity that is healthy for you and for your highest good. It is best to strive for a grateful state and be in touch with your deep down desire to serve and help others to love themselves. 

We know it’s hard when you feel lonely or misunderstood or triggered when others mistreat you or put their negativity onto you unconsciously. This can leave you feeling confused and even angry about the unfair treatment but you have amazing tools to replenish that others don’t have. After a good cry and writing in your journal to get clarity about why something upset you, often you can see these feelings were someone else’s all along and were either vented onto you or you just absorbed them being around another person.  You are still learning about boundaries and grounding yourselves.  You are seeing there are many ups and downs to this life—it may seem hillier and hillier as you climb a mountain but you can take frequent breaks and look at the beauty of the mountainside that no-one else is noticing.  You get to witness and feel the miracles and communicate with love from above that others do not have access to .  

Believing there is so much more to this life is what gives you hope and your day to day thriving is such an uplifting example to others who are struggling from pain and are on antidepressants to cope. There are so many struggling and things like facebook just create illusions if you compare yourself to others.  Everyone is struggling in some way and those believing the rosy pictures of others are not seeing that  we all must feel all of our feelings in order to have a rich experience with an authentic life. Yes we must lift ourselves up to maintain our jobs and meals and sleep and homes and sometimes even this is difficult.  Be kind to yourself and rest when even the simplest tasks are difficult and do extra work on these things in preparation for unexpected hard times when things are going well.  

This ebb and flow will help you relax when you have hard feelings to work through because you know the hard times are temporary. Be loving and kind and gentle with yourselves and remember to call on us angels to soothe you and send you healing energies and uplifting insights to shift you.  We may send you numbers or songs or reminders to write in your journal to get out of your inner critic in the left side of the brain. We want to remind you that you are strong and brave to come here to help and it’s not easy to shift out of the negativity sometimes but You Can Do It! 

Some of you are grieving the loss of illusions that you had that made things easier to do with these illusions.  Now, without the illusions you are grappling with the truth and feeling a loss of motivation.  The motivation will come in a new and powerful way after you give yourself time to grieve your losses and adjust to a new way of being. A new way of being takes time and that is sometimes difficult for earth angels to accept—desires are instantaneous in the astral world so it’s a shock when you feel such obstacles.  

Planning for old age is difficult for you too as you’ve had such childlike energy and exuberant determination your whole life and suddenly your feeling that you are running out of time.  We want to reassure you that you are being helped with these things by your spirit guides and higher self as you stay open to accepting their help and ideas and insights.  Trust you are being guided to ways to care for yourself and your health and financial security. Trusted friends and loved ones are put in your path to ease your life.  Put your desires in writing and then be open to seeing things happen in your life as you strive to stay in the high vibe of love, peace, hope, and healing. 

Yes it’s a difficult world if you look at it that way or you can see the miracles and lessons people are going through in a detached way with boundaries to preserve your energy in place. Protect your energy at all times so you can shine your gifts, rest and recharge and then shine some more.  You are here to shine your light. You are here because you wanted to help. Don’t try to help until your light is recharged—find creative, joyful ways to charge up your light. Follow your hearts desire to figure out what recharges your light and fills you with joy and gratefulness to be alive on the planet. Take as long as it takes to grieve and rest if you are finding it difficult right now. 

Do the basics during hard times and know you can do all the things on your list later when you feel better. We hope these tips will help you through this tumultuous time in life with so many ups and downs. You are stronger than you know. Ask us angels for comfort and guidance 24/7—we are at your service. We leave you now with gigantic golden sparkling hugs and kisses for whenever you need them to help you on your journey.

Until next time, we send you love,

Archangels Muriel, Chamuel, Jophiel, Sandalphon, Azriel, and Uriel.”

I hope you enjoyed this message and found it to be helpful and supportive. It is a great honor that I am able to receive and share these messages with all of you. I’d love to hear from you. Please leave a comment and/or follow this blog. Welcome to our community.

Sending you comfort, caring, and empowerment so you can heal and shine!

With Love and Light,

Roxanne šŸ˜‡šŸ™šŸ’–āœØ

EmpathicSoulHeal.com

Are You Desiring a Safe Space To Vent Your Deep Emotions and Find Direction and Relief?

Hello Everyone. I hope you are having a good Monday! This virus is bringing up more than just outer struggles about work and socializing, it’s bringing up the necessity to do inner reflection and look at buried beliefs that are keeping people stuck from feeling happy and vital in their lives.

Many people are getting clarity and realizing that they have been numbing themselves out to get by each day. Now they are seeing that they have an opportunity to get more satisfactionĀ out of life by doing some emotional healing. Journaling is a valuable healing tool to help people find their true voice and express their feelings.

A deep satisfaction results from expressing the truth that’s in your soul. If you’d like someone to talk to …to vent to … or to learn how to journal for relief, or just sort out some deep and complex desires for self-actualization and emotional healing, check out my website for more info on a session with me. EmpathicSoulHeal.com.

Peace and Love,

RoxanneĀ šŸ˜‡šŸ’–āœØ

Unknown Tips About the Benefits of Crying

Hello Everyone!Ā āœØšŸ’–āœØĀ Just sharing some tips on emotional healing. Pass this on to friends who may be silently hurting:

*It’s helpful to think of Crying as a healthy release.

*Every time you cry you are releasing and healing something.

*Crying alone can be extremely healing—because most people can’t handle other people crying and so then the other person’s reaction complicates the release process—even well-meaning friends.

*Everyone knows ā€œgrieving-cryingā€ is healthy…—for example sometimes the loss being grieved is deeply hidden and confusing like the repressed loss of freedom to be ā€œOne’s SELFā€ in childhood.

*…But even ā€œdespairing-cryingā€ is healthy and releasing too! Because it’s been held in sooo long and now it’s finally ready to leave your energetic system. Afterwards imagine it’s a layer of pain gone forever! You healed it! Be kind and gentle to yourself after! Congratulate yourself! It’s scary but you got through it! Be proud of yourself—don’t judge it!

So Remember!:

Crying is ALWAYS Releasing and Healing!

Just don’t let judgement keep it from completing it’s full release. Let it go! Gone!Ā šŸ„³šŸŽ‰ā£ļøIt always feels better to have a good cry!

Peace and Love,

RoxanneĀ āœŒļøšŸ’–āœØ

A New Channeled Angel Message–For Awakening Souls Healing Wounds from Childhood or PTSD.

(These messages are to be shared for all who resonate and are open to receiving spiritual guidance.Ā  This includes Empaths, Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), Lightworkers, Spiritually Awakening Souls, Earth Angels, and to all Seekers and Open-hearted souls.

Hello Everyone, I have another channeled angel message for you–a message of Hope From the 12th Dimension!–the Angelic Realm. Before I channeled this message I checked in with each of the Archangels to confirm their presence. This group consciousness angel message is from Archangel (AA) Muriel and 7 other angels who join in for the messages. The 8 Archangels are:Ā  Archangel (AA) Muriel (the AA of Empaths), AA Chamuel (Comfort), AA Jophiel (Creativity and Beauty), AA Sandalphon (Grounding and Music), AA Azriel (Supporting Grief, Loss and Transitions), AA Raziel (Divine Magic and Alchemy), AA Uriel (Wisdom), and AA Ariel, (Nature and Animals).

This message will be added myĀ Channeled Angel Messages Page on my blog which has posts of angel messages that I am now posting there weekly or bi-weekly.Ā  There you will find all the other messages from the 6 or more Archangel Guides that I have posted since November, 2018.)

Here is the latest message!:

“Dear Ones, We send you so much love and light to cheer you. You may be feeling weary yet again and you are tired of it. Yes, we see and know you are feeling much pain as it comes up to be healed.Ā  You may feel abandoned and betrayed by life at times but other times you feel the spark and strength inside your soul that is growing in strength.Ā  There is an excitement building as you see that you are stronger than you knew yourself to be and you like what you are seeing.Ā 

Sometimes you can’t see it and feel stuck in density and the negative soup of other’s energies.Ā  You are seeing tools to rise up and out of your triggered states that do not last very long compared to before.Ā  Please give yourselves credit for this.Ā  You may think you are going backwards because you are feeling triggered more frequently but you could not have handled these stresses in the past near as well.Ā  Look at them as opportunities to heal deep scars that have been dormant until now.Ā 

You also are aware that things in your life could be much worse and you know that being grateful shifts you to a state where you can write and meditate and tap into pure love and the angelic realm.Ā  This opens the door to your most creative state of co-creating with your higher self and downloading helpful information and insights to guide you to your next steps in life.Ā  You know that after you ask a question to the highest guides meant for you, it is best to then pull back and be open for the answers rather than try hard to hear.Ā  This takes some time to master and trying auto writing is a good bridge to get to where you feel you are channeling information clearly.Ā  It doesn’t matter if you can hear us and your guides directly but the fact that you believe and know what our unconditional love feels like and that you deserve it and it recharges you and refreshes you to hear these messages then that is a wonderful thing.Ā 

Keep allowing the love in and knowing it is for you, Dear Ones, who resonate with these messages. Because you are here on the planet to learn to tap into your shining light of goodness and light and know it helps others when you share positive, loving energy.Ā  You know you forget how to get into a high vibration sometimes and this is okay because it is just like exercising a muscle, it will get stronger if this is a consistent and even daily tool that you use to cheer yourself up if you ever feel knocked down.Ā 

We send you so much love and hugs.Ā  You may feel our presence when you have endearing memories pop up of when you helped others or your children or co-workers just by listening and having compassion for their feelings.Ā  This is a gift you have that can be overlooked by others as you seem to meld into whoever you are around if you are not consciously creating a mental boundary and shining your light.Ā 

Forgive yourself for not always being the strong shining one overtly.Ā  People always feel better in your presence even when they actually seem grouchier and may even poke at you unknowingly with insensitive words.Ā  You may feel worse after such encounters but realize you have just exchanged energy with the person and they feel better about themselves. This is subtle and many people are not aware.Ā  We are only telling you this so that you will be kinder to yourself and release the energy of others and bounce back to your shiny selves when you are alone in your own energies again.Ā 

You may find you are getting even more sensitive as your light bodies undergo the transformation of ascension that all awakening souls are going through.Ā  Sometimes you feel lonely and other times you feel whole and complete with much to give. This back and forth is a spiral and you are right on track. All light workers and empaths who are awakened to their spirituality are going through this as well and you are not alone.Ā  Reach out for support or to groups if you feel guided but please be discerning about any guidance from others because all souls are complex and other’s experience may not be as high a vibration as the angelic realm information that resonate with your extremely sensitive empathic soul. When it is comforting and loving, nurturing, and soothing and allows you to trust in your own guidance then it is a good fit for you.Ā 

You are learning to trust this good feeling of self-compassion and we are so proud of you.Ā 

We leave you now with hugs and this image of ā€œLove Dovesā€

in honor of Valentines Day this past month and such holidays of love around the world at this time of year. We send you a giant Valentine Heart that says Be Mine! Lol!

It is good and fun to embrace these positive human traditions if they make you feel good and full of childlike wonder, comfort, and a sense of belonging—Please imagine that we Archangels are all one giant valentine heart of Pure Love and Bliss shining down on youāœØšŸ’–āœØ and we wish you the experience of feeling the LOVE from us all, your soul family. Until next time, AA Muriel, Chamuel, Jophiel, Sandalphon, Azriel, Ariel, Raziel, and Uriel.

I hope you enjoyed this message!

Peace and Love,

RoxanneĀ āœŒļøšŸ˜‡šŸ’–āœØ

Hope and Comfort For Sensitive Souls With Childhood Wounds On New Year’s Eve

It’s New Years Eve. Are you feeling raw and wanting to numb out? If you have childhood wounds, they often come to the surface on holidays and celebration times.Ā So be very very kind to yourself right now. I’m writing this to remind all of you sensitive souls about utilizing your tools of Extreme Self Care right now and for the next few days. Your inner child has unmet needs that are surfacing so you can be kind, patient, and loving to make up for those times from your past or childhood when your needs were not met. Wounds can be healed but not if they are constantly pushed down, ignored, or numbed. Be the loving person in your life that was not there for you when you were wounded. What would the most loving person you can think of do? Your Higher Self would say,

“Put your feet up and let me get you a warm blanket and some hot tea or soup. You deserve to rest because you have worked so hard and life can be so hard at times. We all make mistakes, and that is how we learn. Be kind to yourself for trying. You have done so well with all of your hardships. I am so proud of you. You have so many gifts to offer the world but be patient with yourself. As you heal and get stronger you will be brave to try new things and learn more about how to be happy and free and attract abundance, good health, and healthy relationships. You deserve to have fun. You will find fun coming to you as you learn to love the broken parts that need tender loving care. In time you’ll be ready. Trust that life is good and inside of you are all the answers that you need to be successful in life. Spend some quiet time journaling and tending to your hurt feelings. Take down the wall of protection and heavy armor and know that you are deserving of love and kindness. I see you and I know you and I care. Everything is going to be all right. You are loved. You are exactly the way you are for a good reason. If you just take some time and connect with me daily, you can hear my message of love and support as you navigate life. Now is a good time to heal and get stronger. Put yourself and your feelings at the top of your to do list. I am here for you whenever you need me. I love you and I will always take care of you. You are never alone.”

Your best friend,
Your Higher Self.

Have a wonderful, magical night and celebrate however your heart and soul desires.

Peace and Love,
Roxanne

A Healing Poem for Sensitive Souls with a Narcissistic Mother on 11-11.

Hello Everyone!Ā  Many sensitive, and empathic souls and clients are having childhood wounds arise to the surface to be healed.Ā  It can be a very painful experience.Ā  It’s also an opportunity to heal and become stronger.Ā  I hope this poem I wrote recently is helpful, uplifting, and supportive. If you resonate, please leave a comment.Ā  Welcome!

YOU WERE NEVER LOVED, MY DEAR (Healing Shame From Childhood Wounds)Ā  Ā  Ā  Ā  Ā  Ā  Ā  Ā  By Roxanne Elaine Smith

When you had a narcissistic mom

Where’s the next hit coming from

Not a hit with fist or hand

But words and eyes that punch and land

*

Devastating to your soul

Nothing solid to take hold

No mirror to see your worth

No smiles and comfort so you search

*

You search for reasons, blame yourself

Shame and doubt instead of stealth

It robs you of the truth and time

You were sweet and so sublime

*

You were shining, curious love

Sent to earth from up above

But chose the hardest path to start

A childhood starved from feeling part

*

Everywhere you reached was blocked

So you gave up and heart was locked

Trust too much or not enough

Attracting all similar stuff

*

Until you realize the pattern here

You were never loved, my dear

Start from scratch and loving you

Oh it is so hard to do

*

At first because the triggers are

Relieving painful trauma jars

Shocking you right to your core

ā€œHow did I survive Oh Lordā€

*

You didn’t! No you gave up YOU

And turned into a mask not true

Obedient and needy so

People-please and perfection oh

*

Trying oh so many things

Until your true voice finally sings

But shame comes up with every truth

The pattern hidden from your youth

*

Every time you were you, you were shamed

Have to get YOU back again

Ignore the shame and keep on moving

Rise above shame and keep on grooving

*

Yell at shame, you are not mine

Dance out shame, I am just fine

Shame keeps coming every time

Hiding doesn’t heal the crime

*

Only way is to see the child

Inside the parents who went wild

Spilling out their pain on you

Everything it was not true

*

You were perfect whole and right

Their fear and anguish like a blight

They felt safe because of you

Your light it was so bright it’s true

*

Not fair of course you deserved the world

You knew that you could heal and unfurl

Figure it all out you would

And love yourself just as you should

*

And finally learn strong boundaries

And attract those loving hercules

Those strong people, inner strength

Like you they’ve been put up to the brink

*

The death of soul and now awake

They search for tribes to quell and quake

Masterful and sensitive

They forgive and give and give and give

*

And you know you are one of them

And renewed hope on journey stems

Trying listening within

Trusting that love is what went dim

*

Self compassion is your chore

As shame returns with each great score

Reducing size or is it growing

Heal emotions and new knowing

*

Center, grounding, peace of mind

Solid forming, still maligned

Defensiveness and anger flare

But forgiving quicker in thin air

*

Believing in the moment’s peace

That’s the truth not all the fleece

Still confusing childhood wounds

Where’s the love-so many moods

*

Why the deep and painful purge

Feel relief when follow urge

Writing helps you flow it out

The truth is innocence about

*

All of it you chose but why

More than you can fathom, sigh

Others seem to simply thrive

Private hell they do deny

*

Good to have access to love

Reach for heaven up above

But also know you are whole and kind

Lovely you, you shine, shine, shine

*

Then loved ones blame—it all comes back

Another painful self attack

Oh the grief you must allow

The child must cry it out oh wow

*

Will the tears they ever stop

When your happy bubble popped

Self-reliant muscle test

You are getting strongest yet

*

See yourself that child hugged

Held and cherished sweetest mug

Smiles and happy to see you

Healing all that you’ve been through

*

It’s okay to cry a lot

Over things that most forgot

Disappointment to your core

Life goes on with all the sores

*

Want them all to go away

Triggers say hello today

Do not put it all on you!

Bask in love all the day through

*

When you find a sea of pain

That is someone else’s train

Let them drive on their own track

Do not let them take a snack

*

Send them love and move along

You know how you are so strong

You do so much for others

Time to be your own best mother

*

Nurture, comfort, love your soul

You are here to Rock n Roll

Everything is now alright

You are purely Love and Light

Original Poem Ā© Roxanne E. Smith

With deep caring, comfort, and compassion,

Roxanne šŸ˜‡šŸ’–āœØ

P.S. See more healing poems and writings here

High Expectations? New Tools For Sensitive Souls’ Healing Journeys.

Hello Everyone!  I haven’t written for a while because I’ve been so busy just observing this emotional roller coaster ride of the last couple months—it’s been hard to put into words!  It has propelled me into journaling more to get clarity and as always when I write I am able to access a higher perspective of ā€œwhat the heck is going on nowā€! šŸ˜³šŸ™šŸ˜†Haha! I’ve learned a few things and so I feel ready to share some of the positive things to give all of you sensitive souls on this spiritual journey a boost to feel better about EVERYTHING!

What a roller coaster ride!  By this I mean Ups and Downs and Curves and Surprises and Shocks! Can you relate? But at the end of a roller coaster ride at an amusement park, the end of the ride comes with a slowing down and a smooth safe feeling until it comes to a stop and you get off and everyone is all smiles and Gee that was fun.  Well, in general I mean haha, and only because you knew it was temporary—it was a ride you took by choice and it was a safe way to experience a thrill and know it would be over soon.  

Compare that to this incarnation of life on this planet. As sensitive souls, we are highly evolved divine beings here to help, but we have expectations of smooth sailing and love and abundance. I really think it is these expectations that contribute to us getting stuck in the lows on the roller coaster that we experience.  

All of this is coming up for me to talk about I believe because of this last full moon on October 13-yesterday!  If you are like me you may have noticed that you are very sensitive to cosmic changes to the planet and Full Moons and New Moons etc..  I am not very educated in astrology but I find myself searching for YouTube videos to explain what’s going on cosmically at certain times when I’m feeling out of balance and sure enough it is a full moon or a solar flare or something like this causing our distress and it all resonates and gives a sense of relief.  

I get some reassurance from the information I watch or read from elsewhere but often times I am searching and don’t find what I need to feel inner peace—then I am forced to write and then I realize as I connect to my higher self, my inner wisdom, my spirit team, my angels, the Universe, God, whatever you want to call ā€œITā€.

I am then reminded that all my answers for my own inner peace can be found ā€œwithinā€.  I know this but why do I keep forgetting it?  Looking for outside validation has been ingrained in us as humans on this planet and we all feel this—trying to fit in and feel understood by other humans—wanting a tribe or even one other person who understands us and makes us feel reassured and comforted that we are OKAY and that what we are feeling is OKAY and that there is hope and that everything is going to be OKAY.

This neediness we feel is understandable—as highly sensitive, compassionate, evolved souls we are awakening spiritually but we are straddling 2 worlds. We are trying to make it in the 3D world and pay our bills etc. and also looking at the higher perspective of the 5D spiritual world for deeper meaning and understanding of why we are here, keeping our vibration high, and living in the moment to access the unconditional love that we have resonated with as Yes, This is it! All is well! We want that feeling everyday, all the time, every morning when we wake up.

But what I am understanding is, when we wake up in the morning with horrible dread and feeling bad about being here on the planet we need to observe this as information and not as our current truth.  As divine beings, we have often been astral traveling in our sleep. We love to be in the higher angelic realms where we are from evidently—it’s all Love and Light there all the time! šŸ˜‡ 😁 So when we come back into our bodies and wake up as a human on the planet, the densest negative energies, often from our childhoods or possibly past lives come up to the surface so that we can see that these energies are there and are just ready to be ā€œreleasedā€. 

We are strong and powerful divine beings with love and light as our true nature but when we were born we didn’t know this so these wounded parts of ourselves are taking longer to heal then we ā€œexpectedā€. If you had a narcissistic parent then you were unloved and had unmet needs day in and day out for years and years and so you have many layers of of small hurts and false beliefs about yourself that need reparented and comforted one by one. That may be discouraging to hear that it is going to take longer to heal than you expected but here is the good news.  If you observe the big bad emotion you wake up with as just ā€œinformationā€ about your past rather than your present truth you can transmute it in minutes!  

First, describe the feeling and label it!  What is this? Is it shame, dread, hopelessness, anxiety? Then you do the opposite of avoiding it, or believing it, or numbing it out by keeping busy—you go towards it and you write about it in your journal and you have compassion for yourself about it. 

Or if you are already versed in this healing process you go right to a positive affirmation to retrain the neurons in your brain to go a more positive route.  You recognize this bad feeling is your inner critic and not the truth.  It is your survival ā€œfalseā€ self that absorbed the bad feelings from others around you not knowing they weren’t your feelings.  After all you were just a tiny child and had to believe what you were being ā€œfedā€ to survive and to get along with your caretakers who didn’t SEE you for the gifted soul you were.

Most of you know this but if you are like me right now you are still surprised that you are still dealing with these long healed issues—especially in the last few months.  It is my understanding that the last remnants of these layers are possibly the most painful and most deeply ingrained and you are strong enough now to finally look at them, acknowledge that it was even worse than you thought.  So give yourself even more kindness, compassion and comforting reparenting than you ever have before. Extreme extreme self care (double extreme 😃) is in order whenever you wake up feeling bad!!  Be nicer to yourself instead of harder to yourself.  After all isn’t that what your narcissistic parent or bully said to you when they ran out of patience with you—they said ā€œwhat’s wrong with you—why aren’t you over this yet—you should be feeling better by now—you are not doing as well as you thoughtā€.  See? These things you say to yourself are judgements you are making just like bullies or abusers did which is the opposite of the unconditional love and comfort you deserved back then and deserve now.  

Sometimes it isn’t until we get out of our heads and start writing onto paper that we are even realizing we are beating ourselves up just like ā€œtheyā€ did (if you had caretakers who maybe even did the best they could but were needy themselves so they didn’t have the patience that you needed as a highly sensitive soul who was sensitive for a very good reason.)

So now it is up to you. To KNOW you are pure love and light and when you wake up feeling bad you are to lovingly cleaning away the false residue, the past debris, that is covering up your beautiful brilliant lamp of love and light. You now have some more tools in your toolbox to lift yourself back up to where you belong.

Joy is your birthright and you are doing a great job figuring out how to shine what is rightfully yours every moment that you can. Be nicer to yourself when you feel bad not harder on yourself. You are training your brain to go positive quicker and quicker when you get better and better at replacing the doubts negative core beliefs with positive affirmations.  You can do it!  You are pure love and light.

Being a human is extremely complex!  Be patient with this healing journey that you are on!  You may be a sensitive soul who seeks safety and inner peace but you are also a tough warrior with new boundaries to take on this challenge of transmuting darkness into light on planet earth.  You chose to come here because you knew you could be successful at finding your true voice and true self and shining your true light.

Just being here on the planet you emanate this light and love energy and it uplifts others who need it. You are making a difference just by being here. So relax and be patient with yourself. It takes time and there is plenty of time for all the things you want to do. Self-compassion and self-care is always time well spent.  

Sensitive souls, I am so glad you are here on the planet with me. You make the planet a wonderful place to be. If we join forces we can move mountains. Thanks for reading and please reach out if you’d like one-on-one coaching.  My email is hopesinger11@gmail.com. Sometimes just having someone to see us and listen to our feelings with understanding can be so healing.  I also offer distance Reiki and intuitive guidance during sessions as well—you design the sessions the way your heart desires. 

I’m adding a link to my latest YouTube Video here of a recent performance of my original song, We Are Here To Love. The lyrics to this song just flowed out of me from beginning to end with no changes—it was magical. I feel now is the perfect time to share these lyrics with you.

Lyrics: -We Are Here To Love-

Trudging through the past debris, finding sparks of light

Holding onto highest hopes, knowing love is right

Seeing through the doubters’ eyes, knowing those above

Want us to believe and know, time is made for love

Chorus: We are here to love, We can fly with wings of time

When we feel the past, We must rise above and shine

We must rise above and shine, We must rise above and shine

 

Reminded who we are by pushing past the ego’s call

Kindness to ourselves is all we need to break the wall

Pieces still fall down on us, don’t misunderstand

Keep the rays of light around and hold each other’s hand

Chorus: We are here to love…

Verse not included in this video performance:

(Power from the latest move unearth’s a tender spot

Confusing inner child takes stage, plays out what we forgot

Kindness is in order now soothing wounds so raw

New aliveness, strength abounds, braving what we saw

Chorus:.. We Are Here to…)

Bridge: Learning to be still and yet, adversity remains

But even when we think we’ve stalled, we’ve unraveled many chains

Working hard it seems we have not played to really live

But underneath we somehow gain renewed hearts to give

Chorus: We are here to love…

Have faith and know that even in the hardest grief of times

You are loved and cheered about, so take in all the signs

Relish in the life you have, grateful for the rest

All will see the loveliness, you are a force for goodness

Chorus: We are here to love… You must rise above and shine… shine… shine You must rise above and shine. (slow end)

Original Song Ā© Roxanne E. Smith

 

Until next time, With Love and Light,

Roxanne āœŒļøšŸ™šŸ’–āœØ   

New Channeled Angel Message–August 2019 Update Part 2 For Empaths and Sensitive Souls

(These messages are to be shared for all who resonate and are open to receiving spiritual guidance.Ā  This includes Empaths, Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), Lightworkers, Spiritually Awakening Souls, Earth Angels, and to all Seekers and Open-hearted souls.

This message will be added myĀ Channeled Angel Messages Page on my blog which has posts of angel messages that I am now posting there weekly or bi-weekly.Ā  There you will find all the other messages from 6 Archangel Guides (most of the time it is 6 but it changes) that I have posted since November, 2018.)

Hello Everyone! I have another channeled angel message for you! This time Archangel Ariel joined my usual 6 Archangel Guides for this message.Ā Ā 

Archangel Ariel is the Archangel of the Natural World and is a healing angel using nature to help us Rejuvenate! She has a special connection to nature, animals, and elementals and helps us connect with these for our own comfort and healing.Ā  She is also a powerful aid in manifesting abundance in our lives.Ā  She’s the “Lioness of God” helping us with confidence to get out of our comfort zone and ā€œgo for it!ā€Ā  She has a feminine light pink energy of divine love that she shines strongly to comfort us and remind us of the strength in our divine nature.

Before I channeled this message I checked in with each of the Archangels to confirm their presence.Ā  I detected another Archangel and when I asked who it was I was told the name Ariel. Then I felt the amazing essence of this new angelic guide who wants to contribute to these messages to all of you. I feel so honored to be the one who gets to be the messenger of this important angelic information from these 7 Archangels–it all comes through as a singular group consciousness message. Here is the latest message!:

Channelled Angel Message on Aug. 23, 2019

“Dear Ones, We are so happy to be giving you this message today.Ā  We see you are weary from the energies of this past week. At the same time you accomplished much in the way of your own healing and knowing what you must do next on your journey to fulfilling your life’s purpose.Ā  It hasn’t been an easy week but you are somehow also grateful for where you are now from all that you have learned.Ā  You are aware that you need some rest and then you will have a burst of energy to get things done that you are excited about.Ā 

You are listening to your inner guidance and have new clarity of direction in some areas and other areas are still cloudy.Ā  Trust that you will be guided to the other paths when the time is right.Ā  You are tweeking your plans somewhat to fit your personalities to fit the fine line between your comfort zone and taking some risks that feel right to you.Ā  You have learned from past experience to not go too far out on a limb BUT you are more comfortable with being your true spiritual selves in ways you haven’t been comfortable before.Ā 

You know you are here on a mission to help the planet be a better place and you are ready to shine your light brighter than ever before.Ā  We are proud of you as we see you have learned to pace yourselves and have learned much about self-care, grounding and taking baths or getting in nature when you feel drained.Ā  We are proud of your new found clarity about when you are feeling the feelings of others and how to release these energies and recharge in your own pure love energies.Ā  Wow! This is such a valuable tool for your life—you can recharge from any trigger or stressful situation knowing you can always connect to pure love which you are seeing is your natural state of being. Yay! Congratulations!

Another thing we see happening for you is that you are embracing whatever life throws up to challenge you rather than dread being triggered again by loved ones.Ā  Recent events have helped you to see that you are the stronger one emotionally and by staying calm and shining love on a person who is in a negative state you understand now that you are shortening this conflict in big ways and getting to the lesson or feelings that are to be released very quickly.Ā 

You are excited about so many things, you are able to prioritize the things that tax your time and even cut out doing things you used to do so you can be more productive during your day.Ā  You have a new determination to achieve your goals because you know you are good at these things and you see the service that you bring to others with your gifts.Ā  Yes, it is an exciting time right now.Ā  We want to encourage you to keep on seeing yourself in a positive light even when you are tired and need a rest. Others may not understand this need for rest so you can rest without others knowing if this makes it easier—you are stopping yourselves from complaining and wanting others to validate your tiredness—you see that they are not going to understand because they are not where you are on your soul’s journey.Ā 

The emotional healing that you have done has caused you to be very aware of your feelings, body, and mind whereas others in your life are still needing to avoid and numb out their feelings with different vices that no longer interest you.Ā  A big challenge for you is to let them learn for themselves—your results with your new ways of being are a role model for them and you do not need to say a word. Your results will be clear to you and to them in an unspoken and yet deeply satisfying way for you—You KNOW you are teaching them there is a better way to attract abundance that is not forced but comes from following a flow of your heart’s desire and inner guidance that only comes from getting out of the the left brain’s linear thought flow and following the heart and right brain feeling-side or meditative ā€œintuitiveā€ side.Ā 

Writing in a journal connects you to your right brain and inner guidance and access to pure love.Ā  We know we keep talking about this but we feel it is important for those who are very resistant to writing about their feelings or deepest most private self.Ā  Excavating your true feelings is like being an archeologist digging for answers to ā€œwhyā€ā€”This an idea talked about in a book by author Gary Zukav.Ā  It is in finding the origins in your childhoods or past lives that you can heal the foundational patterns that were formed that keep you from moving forward towards your dreams, desires, and true purpose for being here on the planet.Ā 

Once you have these tools to be utilized anytime confusing feelings knock you off of your center, you can regain your balance by writing and asking us angels, or your higher self, or God or the Universe (whichever term resonates) what is really going on?Ā  Often you may be believing your negative thoughts rather than seeing those thoughts from a higher perspective. Ask in your writing ā€œWhere did they come from?—When did they originate?ā€ An aha moment or insight may come to you about an incident from childhood. If this happens then shine self-compassion to the tiny child who did the best he or she could from what he or she knew at the time.

Survival patterns got engrained back then and when you shine light on these scars they can finally be healed.Ā  Grieving the loss of the freedom to be your true self as a child takes time and so much self-compassion and self LOVE. You deserved love and now you can give it to yourself.Ā  And us angels are here to help with this process of emotional healing so that you can shine your light as bright as possible each step of the way to wholeness and becoming your higher self in your ascension journey.Ā 

Be very kind to yourself every day and especially on days when dread or shame or anxiety pops up from out of the blue.Ā  Often this happens when you’ve recently had a success or reached a new level of receiving love in your life—this concept was talked about by John Gray in several of his books—he says: ā€œPain comes up to heal when things are going wellā€.Ā  He is right. The old is clearing out to make room for even more love but it confuses you when it arises because you believe it to be true when it is just negativity on the way out of your body.Ā  Imagine it leaving you as an energy no longer needed for you to survive.Ā 

The quickest way is to just slow down with big deep breaths and say ā€œI breathe in loveā€ and ā€œI breathe out loveā€ with each breath.Ā  Imagine yourself surrounded by only loving energy in a big protective bubble around you. Have fun in your bubble of freedom and love.Ā  Imagine yourself swimming or flying around in your bubble however your inner child desires and people who may disapprove of your freedom can only watch you swim freely as if watching a fish in a gold fish bowl.Ā  You are safe and free to swim in your own bubble of love any time you want.Ā  Haha!

We hope you have fun and laugh with visualizations like this.Ā  You deserve to have fun in life and not be so serious all the time.Ā  Not being able to have fun in life certainly can stem from a childhood of not feeling safe enough to relax and even be in your own bodies due to emotional trauma.Ā  This can be from past lives too or when you were young adults and not always childhood.Ā  Often though, sensitive souls and empaths have chosen traumatic childhoods to replicate trauma from past lives that were never healed yet—this present life has much opportunity for you to finally heal these deep wounds and your higher self knows you are strong enough if you will only LISTEN.

Listen to the promptings of your compassionate heart to be kind to yourself and stop the harsh self-talk that keeps you believing the untruths that were formed out of survival.Ā  Give yourself the unconditional love that you so freely are able to give to others—especially when you are having an unproductive day—be kinder instead of making yourself ā€œtough it out and ignore your painā€. Pain is a teacher to awaken you to your SELF. Dear ones, you are doing such a good job on this complex journey—being a human is so complex!Ā 

You don’t have to figure it all out quickly. We like the quote: “You don’t have to change yourself you only need to love yourself”.Ā  It takes time to heal all the layers and we want you to know you are doing a great job!Ā  We love you and we understand you because we are you—we are your brothers and sisters from the archangel realm and we honor your bravery to volunteer for this mission to shine your love and light on planet earth. Take care of your precious energy so you may find your niche and thrive in abundance.Ā 

We will be back soon with another message through Roxanne who is our pure channel of love, comfort, and support for all empaths, sensitive souls, and all divine souls who resonate with these messages. Our last word to you is to take a break from all your work and emotional healing and have some fun!Ā  You deserve to laugh and be silly and dance, sing, relax, and at least do something that makes you smile whether it’s a movie, or dinner out, or finding some live music somewhere to enjoy being in your human body. Be creative with whatever sparks fun for your inner child.

We love you and we are proud of you and we are having an angel dance party right now cheering you on! Until next time, love and light and FUN, from Archangel (AA) Muriel (AA of Empaths), AA Chamuel (AA of Comfort), AA Jophiel (AA of Creativity and Beauty), AA Sandalphon (AA of Grounding and Music, AA Uriel (AA of Wisdom), AA Azriel (AA of Grieving Loss and Transitions), and for the first time Archangel Ariel joined in and is encouraging you to get out of the house and take a walk or bike ride in nature to rejuvenate your soul.Ā  It’s fun too, she says!”

I hope you enjoyed this message!

Peace and Love,

Roxanne āœŒļøšŸ˜‡šŸ’–āœØ

New Channeled Angel Message: August Update For Empaths and Lightworkers

Hello Everyone!Ā  These messages are to be shared for all who resonate and are open to receiving spiritual guidance.Ā  This includes Empaths, Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), Lightworkers, Spiritually Awakening Souls, Earth Angels, and to all Seekers and Open-hearted souls.

This message will be added myĀ Channeled Angel Messages Page on my blog that has posts of angel messages that I am now posting there weekly or bi-weekly.Ā  There you will find all the other messages from 6 archangel guides (most of the time it is 6 but it changes) that I have posted since November, 2018. Please comment if you like receiving the angel messages in my blog posts. I’d love to hear from you.

Peace and Love to you,

Roxanne Elaine SmithĀ šŸ’—

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Channeled Angel Message Aug. 5, 2019: Trying New Things And Getting New Wings

Dear Ones,

We are so happy to connect with you again.Ā  Many of you are exhausted and surprised by the challenges of July.Ā  We are here to tell you to trust that your higher self has conspired to help you become stronger so all of your dreams can come true.Ā  When we say all of your dreams we mean the desires in your heart that are for your highest good as a soul.Ā  We are not talking about desires from the ego but you do not need to concern yourself with this.Ā  You can trust that you are being lead to situations that override any lower vibrations that block your vision.Ā 

Feelings of a lower vibration are on their way out as the true purity of your loving souls are attracting just the goodness your soul is seeking.Ā  You are doing a good job discerning how to spend your energy each day and following your heart.Ā  Yes it is through building this muscle of trusting your feelings and intuition that you will be able to step into empowerment and shine your full light to attract abundance.

We are so proud of you.Ā  We see you stepping out of your comfort zone to try new things that feel right as your next steps,Ā  Bravo! You are doing great even though you may feel surprised at the nervousness you feel inside—a little shaky at times.Ā  This is to be expected and we want you to love yourself through this nervousness.Ā  We want to reassure you that no-one notices this that you feel is obvious to others.Ā  You come across more confident than you think you do.Ā  Taking a moment to remember to breathe and speak from the self-power-awareness in your solar plexus area will help you to regain your composure and speak your truth if you encounter an unexpected response from others.Ā 

Remember your bright light and your mission of love and all you learned in July.Ā  You may have learned that although you have the right to release anger from your past, expressing anger or any negativity to others does not get you the results you desire in your heart.Ā  You’ve learned that softening, taking a breath and seeing another’s negativity from a higher perspective opens the other person in ways that surprise even them.Ā  You are changing long instilled patterns of reacting and this is so wonderful.Ā  Even if you aren’t seeing results in others yet, know you are changing patterns of triggers with yourself in big ways.Ā  You know what treatment you deserve and by giving yourself this loving better treatment you will attract this better treatment from others.Ā 

You might be asking isn’t it obvious—I’m so innocent of any wrong doing? But in that same breath are you seeing that in the past you have had a bit of a controlling side that you were blind to.Ā  Do not be hard on yourself if you resonate with this truth—this was a self-protection that was necessary to your survival in the pastĀ  But now you see that love is not controlling and you are ending this pattern of controlling yourself and others.Ā  This is resulting in healing the codependency on others and needing outside validation to quell your fear of being alone.Ā 

You see that when you connect with your true higher self of pure love, this alone feeling vanishes and you feel whole.Ā  And so you are able more and more to detach from unhealthy dependency and stand strong and know you are a powerful creator.Ā  Even if you are only starting to get glimpses of this independent power inside yourself, know that this will not go away and will only grow stronger.Ā  Your higher self has guided you through some painful reopening of rejection wounds that have helped you to see you must stand on your own 2 feet and you can’t rely on anyone else to understand your unique dreams and help them come to fruition.Ā 

You are actually the leader due to your emotional strength even though less sensitive others may point out weaknesses.Ā  Don’t believe it!Ā  These comments come out of fear of not being right due to insecurities they have not worked through but you have.Ā  Don’t try to explain but just know in your heart that you are growing so strong and you are loved and supported fully by the higher realms who see your budding wings growing and getting ready to fly.Ā 

Trust yourself to know your own pace as you try new things that are scary.Ā  Shame may arise with attempts at revealing your real self and true voice but know this is only the inner critic ego voice trying to protect you.Ā  Keep moving forward after comforting yourself through this old shame that arises.Ā  You may find you need to grieve and cry about the times you believed this shame in the past—shame can rob sensitive souls of opportunities to shine if it is believed and fed into.Ā 

It’s best to label the emotion when it arises and don’t let it take hold—observe it and say something like, ā€œOkay, I see you, shame.Ā  I see you are here because I did something great for myself so I am not going to listen to you.Ā  Go away shame energy!ā€Ā  Visualize this negative energy going away from you.Ā  Put up your magic bubble that you can visualize—imagine your shining light can go outward through your bubble but negative energy can only leave and cannot come back in.Ā 

Oh doesn’t that feel better! Take a big deep breath, exhale and relax and know you are safe in only your own loving energies inside this bubble.Ā  We hope you use this bubble visualization anytime you feel heavy negative feelings come out of the blue.Ā  Also remember to write out your feelings in a journal if you feel stuck.Ā  This writing works because you get the negative thoughts out of your left brain and onto paper and the act of writing connects you to the compassionate right side of the brain that can then comfort you and help you realize that you are being too hard on yourself.Ā 

We hope these techniques help you as you take amazing steps of bravery to share your creative gifts and services with the world.Ā  We are so proud of you and we are happy to have this opportunity to connect with you again.Ā  We want to share that August will have more smoother times that you’ve created for yourself by healing deep inner wounds in July.

Yes there will be some emotional healing to do in your future of course—this self-growth process is well known to you and for most of you, the hardest parts are now behind you.Ā  You know this on some level. Trust in this knowing about yourself.Ā  You are a powerful healer and you are becoming more comfortable with this truth.Ā  Congratulations for hard work well done!Ā  We love you and send hugs of comfort and encouragement to shine strong until the next message, Archangel (AA) Muriel (AA of Empaths), AA Jophiel (AA of Creativity and Beauty), AA Chamuel (AA of Comfort), AA Sandalphon (Archangel of Grounding and Music), AA Uriel (AA of Wisdom), and AA Azrael (AA of Grieving Loss and Transitions).

New Weekly Channeled Angel Messages: Comfort For Empaths and Lightworkers During Ascension

Channeled Angel MessagesĀ āœØšŸ˜‡šŸ’–āœØWeekly!

Hello Everyone!Ā  These messages are to be shared for all who resonate and are open to receiving spiritual guidance.Ā  This includes Empaths, Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), Lightworkers, Spiritually Awakening Souls, Earth Angels, and to all Seekers and Open-hearted souls.

This blog post is taken from my Channeled Angel Messages Page on my blog that has 13 posts of angel messages that I am now posting there weekly.Ā  There you will find all the other messages from my 6 archangel guides (most of the time it is 6 but it changes) that I have posted since November, 2018. Please comment if you like receiving the angel messages in my blog posts. I’d love to hear from you.

Peace and Love to you,

Roxanne Elaine Smith šŸ’—

July 15, 2019

Dear Gorgeous Sensitive Souls, we are greeting you this way because some of you are not feeling so beautiful right now and we want to reassure you that you are and so much more than you can imagine.Ā Ā Your brilliant light and healing abilities are vast and strong and your ability to tap into the beauty and bliss of existence is very real. Often you get bogged down from being around others and don’t even realize the negativity is not yours.Ā Ā Other times you are triggered by the insensitivity of loved ones and your own unhealed wounds come up to the surface.Ā Ā Often this makes you feel shocked at the depth of your wounds about feeling safe.Ā Ā You know that you need to feel safe at a basic level.Ā 

The good news is that this is happening so that you can now begin to create this safety for yourself from the inside out.Ā Ā Until you know about these unsafety feelings that have been long hidden inside, you can’t heal them.Ā Ā So your higher self is guiding you to these situations where you have to face these needs for safety that were never properly formed in your childhood or you may have root chakra damage from past lives that has not been resolved that is playing out in this lifetime.Ā 

This happens if you died tragically in a past life for being persecuted for many reasons and one example is for being accused of being a witch. Or you may have been an outspoken or rebellious woman or man who did not follow the rules of your time and were trying to help others in some way. The list of possibilities is long.Ā Ā Deep feelings of untrust and injustice and not being able to speak your truth may all be coming up to be healed and resolved in this life. You may be clearing throat chakras issues in this case.Ā Ā If it all feels like too much to decipher and bear please take a break from figuring it all out and be really kind to yourself right now. Often the weekends are when conflicts arise because we have the time and our higher self knows it.Ā Ā Try to trust that your higher self will not give you more than you can handle.Ā 

If you can write in the mornings to get back in touch with your true loving nature and clear out your disappointment, then the rest of your day will go so much better.Ā Ā We see how strong you are, how amazing you are when you speak out about things—when your words are twisted or not received well, you are hard on yourself and forget that what you were saying is/was very accurate. Your are right and you are right most of the time—people who manipulate and downplay your words are just showing their insecurities and fear.Ā Ā It is disguised as power but it is born out of fear of not being good enough.Ā Ā You also have roots of not being good enough that you are clearing out.

You are now knowing you are good enough so you expect loved ones to be a cheerleader for you and you may be shocked and disappointed when they are not.Ā Ā You would never not be a cheerleader so then you blame yourself for not choosing people in your life who are not cheerleaders. Please know that what gifts you bring to the planet, of creativity and high vibration, cause a healing crisis in other people sometimes and it is all unconscious to them—they don’t know why they react the way they do. Think of yourselves as magic healers walking around bringing up others unhealed wounds sometimes.Ā Ā Think of yourselves like Glenda the Good Witch floating around with a smile and beauty and a powerful wand—we hope this brings a smile to your face.Ā Ā It may seem silly but if you are feeling victimized instead of seeing that you are healing, this image can really help you to heal.Ā 

Of course Glenda has a magic bubble to get away and you can’t float away in your human world but you absolutely have the power to put a protective bubble around yourself at any time with just your imagination and intention.Ā Ā It’s best to imagine this amazing bubble of yours to allow love and light and bliss to flow out to others but no negativity may enter. There are many ways you may imagine your bubble—you may like to create it to have a mirrored exterior shining outward so that when negativity approaches, it sees itself and runs away. We want this to be fun for you to experiment with.Ā 

We are also wanting to lighten your heavy mood that stems from having absorbed negativity from elsewhere. Innately your energy is all love and light and so you can ask your guides and angels to lift off any energy that is not yours at any time. We want to help and we remind you that you must ask for our help in order for us to do things like this. We love you so much, dear ones, and we want you to be excited about who you are and your abilities to manifest your desires that are in the highest good for your soul. In order for your dreams to come true the lower vibrational repressed emotions from childhood must be cleared out.

Right now you may have anger to be cleared out—it might be causing a blockage in the heart and solar plexus chakras—imagine the frustration of not having a voice to say no to abuse and injustice and since you are healing and getting stronger and some good things are happening in your life, it makes sense that repressed anger from the past would come up to the surface to be healed.Ā Ā You may find you have exploded at someone recently or wanted to and perhaps you are shocked at the rage that you feel. We want you to know you can release this anger in harmless ways by several techniques. One is by writing all the rage out at someone in a letter and do not hold back and tell the truth of the depth of your rage—and then burn it of course (in a private releasing ceremony if you’d like) or shred it because this would be damaging for anyone else to actually read.

Also hitting a mattress as hard as you can as often as you need to to release this anger out of your body.Ā Ā Thirdly, saying or yelling what you wish you could say to an abuser or unfair situation into a pillow to muffle the sound. We do not want you to hurt your vocal chords of course so alternate these different techniques as you feel guided.Ā Ā We want you to look at this as a healing exercise and notice the relief that you feel.Ā Ā We do not need to tell you that unleashing anger onto a person would be harmful as well as lower your vibration and only cause you to feel remorse—but humans do have this big reaction at times so if by chance you do have an angry outburst on another it will do wonders to genuinely apologize for any words that diminished the other person in any way. If you were just loud out of frustration that is okay occasionally although you may find that yelling just triggers others and they may not be as mindful as you in their choice of words back to you which may trigger you in return.Ā 

So you can see that staying calm—speaking your truth in a calm tone such as saying: ā€œI know who I am, and what is being said about me here is incorrectā€ or ā€œI do not want to be treated this wayā€ and walk away is the beginning of finding your voice and strength to standing in your power and ending co-dependence on others approval.Ā Ā We see that many of you are getting your independent legs and we are so proud of you.Ā Ā Do not be discouraged if it has taken you a long time to get to where you can see with clarity that you are treated less than fairly in your love relationships too. Do not be too quick to throw this relationship away because all that may need to happen is for you to calmly say ā€œNo I’’m not going to allow you to talk to me like that—Maybe you should go take a walk and calm downā€ or something to that effect. We know this is easier said than done but we want you to see the progress you are making that we see—and be cheerleaders for yourselves to continue to grow in your strength as sensitive caring souls who only want to help.Ā 

You will get more respect from the divine masculine partner when you stay calm and speak strongly and forcefully rather than cry and yell from a feeling of victimization. Forgive yourselves for occasional outbursts, you are human and it’s okay and may even be eye opening for you to see the hidden inner wound in you that needs to be healed. To be blamed or criticized or mocked or betrayed are all things you mustn’t stand for and you must speak up about—you will find your words in time.Ā Ā Marriage counseling called Imago Relationship Therapy can be very helpful if you are having marital struggles with someone who is very much still in 3D and acting from their ego—because the principle is that you each are attracted to the very person who will bring up your childhood wounds so that you can heal them.Ā 

We have talked about marital struggles here because we want you to see that it is often through relationships that we grow the most because your partners show you where the pain lies.Ā Ā Optimally you can come to an agreement with your partner that you both need to provide a safe space for you each to heal your own wounds and honor and respect each others needs for time alone to process after an argument. This is difficult if you have abandonment wounds and a deep need to feel connected to another person in order to feel loved.Ā Ā This is very hard and you may have PTSD with these wounds as the basis.Ā Ā Asking your partner to just hold you at times can help tremendously in healing the early childhood wounds of not being held enough. Know that you are a gift to any partner you choose because you are pure love—knowing this deep in your soul will help you heal your own abandonment wounds.

If you are single with abandonment wounds you are healing it every day that you take care of yourself and are not looking for someone else to complete you.Ā Ā You are complete and whole and we are especially proud of you learning to love yourself and look deeply inward to see that the wounds can be healed with your own self-compassion and finding your voice by journaling or reaching out to a trusted sensitive, and experienced counselor. Trust your heart to know you’ve found the right person to help.Ā Ā Always remember you can talk to us anytime and ask for guidance and be open to the answers coming to you in your mind as new insights and ideas—of course writing to us in a journal is another way of receiving insights that very may well seem like your own ideas but we are helping in a way that may not be obvious.Ā 

This is the beginning of trusting your intuition and this muscle will grow stronger with use.Ā Ā So we leave you today with much advice about healing your inner wounds and your relationship conflicts—this is because we want you to know you are not being punished by these difficulties happening in your lives right now—much to the contrary, these conflicts are providing you with opportunities to see clearly where your wounds are and how you can heal them to feel strong no matter what happens in your life.Ā Ā This inner strength is what is already inside you, we can see it, but you are just beginning to see it.Ā 

Having inner strength is all you need to manifest your dreams and even future treasures that your higher self has planned for you that you can not even imagine. Trust that the universe is in your favor always at all times. Easier times are ahead as you clear out and acknowledge and release the hardest wounds from your past.Ā Ā We send you comfort and hugs and butterfly kisses for your wounded inner child. Until next time, be gentle on yourselves, AA Muriel (Empaths), AA Chamuel (Comfort), AA Jophiel (Creativity and Beauty), AA Sandalphon (Grounding and Music), AA Uriel (Wisdom), and AA Azriel (Grief, Loss, and Transitions)

Good News For Highly Sensitive People Who Are Awakening–You Can Do It!

Hello Highly Sensitive Souls! How is it possible that it is the end of May!Ā  It’s gone so fast but now the warm weather is finally here in my part of the midwest, so I’m not complaining–I’m just in awe of the speed of time that seems to be passing!Ā  Wow!Ā  At the same time though I feel like a different person since January of 2019–I’ve done so much more unexpected inner work and self growth and now I’m excited to be where I’m at!Ā  I am experiencing so much clarity and positive energy from my inner guidance to help others at a new higher level!

There is so much to feel hopeful about my dear sensitive friends.Ā  You are exactly the way you are for a reason and you have a spirit guide and angels cheering you forward 24/7.Ā  There may be times that you feel that they are not there and your wounds from childhood seem to be driving the bus so to speak. Please know that these wounds must come up to the surface to be cleared out and that you are healing.Ā  Every single day you are healing!Ā  Know that your higher self is taking you by the shoulders and helping you through each obstacle in life with the intent to make you stronger!Ā  You got this!Ā  You can do it!Ā  You are loved from above.Ā  And I’m here to help you know it and believe it and believe in yourself and your creative gifts.

I love being a cheerleader for highly sensitive souls because I understand so much now from my own journey.Ā  I am so grateful for my intuitive gifts that have lead me to be able to have conversations now with my guides and angels and higher self.Ā  I have honed the skill of automatic writing to where I can connect easily now and get answers.Ā  My journey started out with so much pain and heartache as a child–being highly sensitive with abandonment wounds left me feeling so codependent on others–I didn’t even realize it–I thought I had worked through everything but no there was still more underneath some illusions that were protecting me.Ā  But now all that is behind me and I am feeling so independent and whole.Ā  Whatever healing seems unsurmountable to you at the moment please know that it can be done.Ā  Whatever doubts you have about your ability to attract the life of your dreams are just words you heard from elsewhere ingrained in you from someone who may have just been jealous of your bright light,Ā  You can learn to over-ride all self doubts with positive affirmations and self-belief and self love.

I have just channeled a new angel message, wrote a new song, and wrote a new poem all in the last 2 weeks.Ā  I’m on a roll and I know how to unblock myself for good now. For those of you who are awakening to spirituality and are craving some good news, please check out my YouTube channel to see my angel message videos.Ā  Go to this link=>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXg27-Lzvcffrr7lf6DRIfg.

Slowly I’ll be putting myself on the videos as I feel ready–right now it is just my voice reading the messages I have channeled.Ā  I am following my guidance to share these messages hopefully weekly now to give comfort to empaths, highly sensitive people, lightworkers, and earth angels and awakening souls. Have a wonderful week! I care and I am here to cheer you on to love yourself and take good care of yourself.Ā  You are on your way!

With love and light,

Roxanne šŸ˜‡šŸ’–āœØ

The Dark Night of the Soul–There is Hope!

Hello Highly Sensitive Souls, Empaths, and All,

I hope you are doing well! I am sending my love and appreciation to all of you and especially those of you who follow my posts!Ā  Thank you!!Ā  I am feeling a camaraderie with you and a deep empathy for the unique painful rollercoaster journey that accompanies being a highly sensitive soul and an empath.Ā  We are so complex but sometimes all it takes is for us to feel very seen and heard and validated for the injustices we experience and then we are renewed and recharged to get back out there and shine our lights in the world!!

I’m feeling very renewed at the moment and so I want to offer hope to any of you who are suffering right now and not feeling hopeful!!Ā  There is hope!Ā  You are special and you are sensitive for a good reason!Ā  You are enough and just your being here on the planet raises the vibration, even if you don’t feel like you are!

It’s been a long time since I’ve posted because I’ve been going through so much.Ā  March was intense and I feel compelled to reach out and connect with you all because well by nature I always want to help others–if you are having a hard time with sudden life changes well I understand completely and I am right there with you! I made it through to a very positive place and so I want to pass on to you what I learned. There is so much hope!

Oh my gosh! Where to begin? I don’t want to speak in generalities and I don’t want to vent about my personal life too much so I will try to just be vulnerable and truthful. Life had been going along one way for years and now I’ve been on this spiritual awakening journey and gradually things had turned upside down for me.Ā  Twice in the last week I started spiraling and even my usual supports weren’t helping.Ā  I was shocked!Ā  I’m the one who has it all figured out and helps others how can I be feeling so out of control and panicky, I felt like I was falling in a black hole. Everything around me felt like it was crumbling away. I didn’t have a panic attack, I’ve been fortunate to never have had one– what I had was an excruciating migraine that was caused by my own negative spiraling thoughts, for hours!Ā  …Until I asked, what in my life would make me feel better.Ā  The answer that came to me was, something big in my life had to CHANGE.

Then I looked up online Dark Night of the Soul and found what Eckhart Tolle said about it. I was immediately comforted just because what was happening to me had a name.Ā  I was having an existential crisis. Here are some parts of Eckhart Tolle’s article that helped me the most:

The Dark Night of the Soul–“It is a term used to describe what one could call a collapse of a perceived meaning in life…an eruption into your life of a deep sense of meaninglessness.” “…Really what has collapsed then is the whole conceptual framework for your life, the meaning that your mind had given it. So that results in a dark place. Ā But people have gone into that, and then there is the possibility that you emerge out of that into a transformed state of consciousness. Life has meaning again, but it’s no longer a conceptual meaning that you can necessarily explain. Ā Quite often it’s from there that people awaken out of their conceptual sense of reality, which has collapsed.

They awaken into something deeper, which is no longer based on concepts in your mind. Ā A deeper sense of purpose or connectedness with a greater life that is not dependent on explanations or anything conceptual any longer. Ā It’s a kind of re-birth. The dark night of the soul is a kind of death that you die. What dies is the egoic sense of self. Of course, death is always painful, but nothing real has actually died there – only an illusory identity. Ā Now it is probably the case that some people who’ve gone through this transformation realized that they had to go through that, in order to bring about a spiritual awakening. Often it is part of the awakening process, the death of the old self and the birth of the true self.”

Besides the migraine, I also was experiencing this falling sensation of impending death and as if the walls around me and life as I knew it was crumbling away.Ā  So at a point of desperation I asked my Self, what in my life would make me feel better.Ā  The answer that came to me was, Something had to Change. I started imagining some of these changes in detail and magically my migraine started to slowly dissipate, I felt hopeful but perplexed and awestruck by this Dark Night of the Soul experience and I was able to finally feel hopeful and get some sleep after what seemed like the longest night of my life. (Reading Eckhart Tolle’s article had helped too–full article is here).

The next morning, I felt a new sense of aliveness and I took some action on these changes feeling more empowered then I had felt in a long time. But surprisingly the changes that I imagined didn’t end up needing to be THE THING after all–but some painful conversations with certain people in my life opened up what REALLY needed to happen. Then surprisingly my heart just burst open with clarity and LOVE and gratefulness for everyone involved like never before. Suddenly all the changes that I wanted I no longer needed but it was actually the experience of having the dark night of the soul that had changed me–I felt like my heart had grown 3 sizes like the grinch when he got super powerful and turned the sleigh around–I no longer needed other people to change and I had all the answers inside all along.Ā  My compassion for myself and others in my life and gratefulness for my journey had grown exponentially as well and a renewed passion in my career of coaching and energy healing and my music!Ā  I’m sooo excited like never before and with such clarity and newfound energy about my true purpose in life. Wow!

I feel grateful that my Dark Night of the Soul experience was shorter than what some people experience.Ā  After researching this, I have new empathy for the hell other’s go through.Ā  I am also aware that this may not be my last experience with this–one never knows how the Universe is going to challenge them to grow when we are unknowingly resisting change with all of our might and our Higher Selves have a different plan for our souls’s journey.Ā  What I have learned is more Trust!Ā  I trust that I am being guided to experiences that are opening me up and challenging me to grow in ways I didn’t know possible. Holy Hell LOL!!–the pain I went through was excruciating but I guess it had to be purged and experienced so that I can be a hand to hold for others going through it too.

There seems to be no way to skip over this process if it is happening to you. I am not a licensed therapist for those of you experiencing a prolonged depression. But I can share my experience of healing which was by way of writing and doing deep inner grief work in a journal which for the most part started for me in 2003 and then all the songs of hope and healing started pouring out of me in the years that followed.Ā  I credit the book The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron for helping me find this positive True Voice that was inside me all along. Whatever you journey looks like please know that I believe you will come out the other side and that your journey is teaching your soul something that will be of great value.

After my Dark Night of the Soul experience last weekend, words can’t describe my new vitality and passion to get on with my life’s work.Ā  All winter long I had been soul searching looking for direction and energy and drive to move forward consistently with this blog, my spiritual counseling and intuitive coaching work, energy healing, and my performing and writing my songs of hope and empowerment.Ā  AND I am so grateful now to be experiencing this new gift of realizing I’m a channel and always have been–It is profoundly honoring and a humbling experience for me that I now feel stronger to fully step into this role and say yes, I’m a channel for spirit here, having a human experience to help others, who are struggling with deep questions about how to embrace their gifts of sensitivity in an insensitive world.Ā  I’m here to tell you when you step fully into loving yourself and taking responsibility to learn tools to daily rise back into your truth as a shining light for the planet you will start attracting more and more positive people and experiences that will help you feel like life is all falling into place.Ā  Then you can relax and just be YOU!Ā  And you are so wonderful, just as you are, my dear sensitive souls, I’m grateful that you are here with me to help raise the vibration of the planet!

Sending you so much comfort, love and light as you continue on your healing journey,

Roxanne šŸ˜‡šŸ’–āœØ

 

Update! Angel Channeling Success, Inner Child Healing, and a Vacation!

Hi Everyone! I’m happy to say my channeling from last week’s post that I put on YouTube is doing so well!–as of now I have over 2600 views, 260 likes and lots of positive, grateful comments on the Higher Self Channel. I had no idea it would do so well! Here’s the link to see it:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rpKhVU5EtosĀ  Ā ( I apologize but this link is no longer working because I took the video down and moved all my future Channeled Angel Message videos to a new YouTube Channel here.Ā To see all Channeled Angel Messages you can read them here on my blog by clicking here.)

With all the excitement, I then caught a bad cold on Friday. I hadn’t come down with a virus like this in years–I like to believe it happened because I’m clearing out the old from my body that no longer fits and I have shifted into a higher vibration–I hope! šŸ˜‡. This is what my inner guidance is saying šŸ˜āœØ so I’m inclined to believe it. 😃 It’s called a “healing crisis”–google it if you want to learn more.

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I also had to process some emotional pain that got triggered when I was feeling so sick, miserable and alone, and unable to think, or do any work–it triggered me back to my abandonment wound from early childhood and I started spiraling with hopelessness feelings and irrational thoughts like “I will never be well again”–a child believe’s this when they have no comfort and no-one to explain what is happening and that they are going to be okay.

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This wisdom came to me when I allowed myself to examine what messages my inner critic was saying when I was feeling the worst.Ā  With this delving inward, I had an AHA moment!– for the first time when ill, I had clarity of exactly where that feeling came from and I was able to feel it and comfort myself through it–simultaneously I felt myself finally healing from the virus as I felt it lift after a short but intense crying spell about the original neglect and simultaneously comforting myself through it–this was an emotional healing breakthrough! I let the little child in me cry about the original painful event that had been repressed.Ā  I felt so good after that cry–I was …reconnected to my truth–to my true higher self.

That was yesterday.Ā  Today, when I woke up, I felt like Yay my brain is working again, I feel excited and stronger than ever, and I’m getting ready for a vacation in 4 days with my husband.

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I’ll be back here writing again after I get back from the Bahamas (my first time there ever)! 😁 .

I hope by sharing these things I go through, it will help you the next time you get triggered to a stuck feeling. Write about it and decipher it back to it’s roots and let the inner child ( or past life YOU) cry about it to release this truth that has been repressed.Ā  Crying is part of the healing–Comforting yourself is the crucial 2nd part of the emotional healing process–you know you would comfort a crying child who is ill (or abused) and needs to be held and reassured–of course you would so give this to yourself!!Ā  You can be your own healer!!

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If you resonate with this, then this is a good time to start an emotional healing journal today if you have not already.Ā  Think of it as writing out a private conversation with your best loving friend, your higher self, who loves you unconditionally!

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It’s so healing!! More on this on another post! Have a wonderful couple of weeks, Everyone!!Ā  Sending all of you hugs, comfort, compassion, and deep understanding.

With Love, Light, and Gratefulness,

Roxanne šŸ˜‡šŸ’–āœØ

Recovery from PTSD from Childhood Trauma–for Highly Sensitive Souls

Hello everyone.Ā  I hope you are able to enjoy the holidays and find some inner peace and joy in just “being wonderful, sensitive YOU!”. For highly sensitive souls, the holidays can be difficult, especially if you are triggered easily due to PTSD from childhood trauma. I relate, however, many big breakthroughs have been happening for myself. I have been wanting to write and connect with you all about all the self discovery and healing I am learning about and how it’s making profound shifts in my own life–I am always listening to my inner guidance and growing.Ā  It’s an amazing process once you get on a roll.Ā  One day while journaling, the following information just poured out of me from my inner guidance and I knew it was meant to share on this blog.Ā  Here it is:

“You can recover from PTSD from childhood trauma.Ā  It’s not easy. It’s step by step. Yes, it really is about putting one foot in front of the other-wading through the feelings and voicing your truth.Ā  When you have PTSD from trauma in childhood it is your root chakra that continually needs help in your life. This is about getting your legs underneath you, standing strong on your own 2 feet, and feeling safe.Ā  It’s about moving forward towards your dreams.Ā  It’s about feeling solid, centered, grounded, and safe for your soul to stay in your body.Ā  When you voice your deep fears and the truth about their origins to a safe person, it validates you to feel safe and be ā€œinā€ your body—perhaps for the first time.”Ā 

I didn’t know I wasn’t in my body until 2011 and I had memories of terror come up when I was laid up with some health problems. I had to cry and re-experience the terror with a safe person holding my hand as I voiced the truth of what happened to me. Realizing it was from childhood and not in the present is part of the relief—you realize you are not dying or going to die from the emotional pain (which is what a child believes) but just releasing a repressed trauma.Ā  Afterwards, I had a new sensation and a knowing that I was stronger—I proclaimed, “OMG! I feel like I am in my body for the first time!” I never forgot this moment and I was amazed—you realize the profound shifts that emotional healing can evoke.Ā  It propels you to keep feeling more and more of your repressed pain and release it as it comes up.Ā 

After this you begin to understand you are building a foundation (healing your root chakra)—a solid foundation is being laid down brick by brick.Ā  It takes time and patience and deep love for yourself.Ā  You are lovable and you have always been.Ā  You deserve to feel safe and whole and vital.Ā  You can overcome all of your fears and step into your whole true self.Ā  You are on your way!

More helpful guidance for highly sensitive souls on the way in 2019!Ā  Happy New Year to you all!! It’s gonna be a great year!!!

With love and light,

Roxanne šŸ˜‡āœØ

Part 3 (Final) of Heart To Heart Update

Hello everyone! If you’ve been feeling extra tired, or extra emotional, or stuck, or triggered, I believe the full moon todayfull harvest moonĀ is causing energies that are helping us to clear out some deep unhealed layers of childhood pain.Ā  I personally have been very tired and journaling a lot to work through heavy, dark feelings of self-doubt and unworthiness — which hasn’t been easy.Ā  Some of my best songs and poems arise at times like these and I’ll be sharing them here hopefully soon to help anyone who resonates and would like to feel hopeful about their emotional state.Ā  The poem I wrote on Oct. 1 that I mentioned in my last post will be shared in my next post–I read it again today and it was helpful in moving out the stuck emotions I felt today so I plan to share that in the coming few days.

Now, on with Part 3!–Here’s the last part of my heart to heart series to update everyone on what I’ve been doing while I was on a break from writing regularly on this blog. This post is a long one–future posts will be much shorter for easier reading I promise!

Continuing with sharing the story of my journey to finally start performing, let me just say it took until fall of 2017 for me to feel ready to start looking for paid gigs–I had been practicingĀ a 2 hour set of my songs (including playing guitar) for many months while we got settled in our new house (Oct. 2016) before I felt ready to reach out to venues as a professional musician. Then on one courageous day, I took the leap and did it–made phone calls and sent emails with a demo video I had made.

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1st gig on Sept. 23, 2017

I found 2 local venues (a branch of Breweries, and a winery) that were encouraging local artists and paid, albeit meagerly, for 2 hours of a mix of original folk rock and cover songs by my favorite artists: James Taylor, Carole King, The Eagles, Linda Ronstadt, Bonnie Raitt, Neil Young, and more! My album and the demo I made with performance videos from my open mic nights helped convince them to give me a chance and soon I was performing once a month then twice a month and then eventually 4 times a month. By the end of the summer of 2018 I was doing 3 hour gigs as well with several hired guitarists that I had duos with. Phew!rock and roll wonder woman

I stopped in September to take a break and get organized with my coaching and this blog and also to celebrate!– because I feel over a hump and ready to branch out and collaborate with some new musicians and look for higher paying venues.Ā  Breaking through a glass ceiling that I never thought I could achieve brings up surprising amounts of grief and emotional pain and is not all just happiness, ease, and fun.Ā glass ceiling Yes, when you have childhood wounds that kept you in a state of hiding most of your life, you must keep up with the positive affirmations and self-care of course but also make time for grieving the loss of all the years you didn’t believe in yourself and your gifts. It’s important to leave time for emotional healing and not spread yourself too thin.Ā  It took some time for me to find a balance that worked for me.keep calm and glass ceiling

Okay, so now on a new topic, not only have I been performing and working on my music career, but I have also developed some new life coaching skills and emotional healing tools. From 2014 to now and continuing, I have been working with various intuitive coaches, energy healers, and spiritual counselors.Ā  Through my seeking and thirst for knowledge about the spiritual realms, I have developed my own intuitive abilities to the point where I am proud to say that I am now a channel for spiritual guidanceĀ Ā as an Akashic Record Reader and you can read more about this on my new life coaching website. Yay! It’s very exciting! I realize now that I have always had this ability on some level but now I am able to ask for and receive spiritual inner guidance with greater clarity and greater confidence, knowing, and with greater tools to help others.AA Muriel

And this is because:Ā  I have had to continually be doing intense emotional healing of my own.Ā  Layers of pain coming up to the surface with each new success–the pain and doubt doesn’t just magically go away one day when you have many childhood wounds–having given up on myself at the age of 5 and banished my true self and my dreams away to develop a false self that was hiding and codependent, a people pleaser, and a rescuer–I’ve had to continue to work on healing all of these issues!Ā  I’ve continually been working through the PTSD that results from having the abandonment wounds (from being hospitalized as a toddler) and also working through shame and feeling unsafe to be my true self as a child and throughout my early adulthood.Ā  I had learned how to survive by hiding away my true desires and gifts and dreams so completely that I gave up on my music for 20 years while raising my children. Perhaps you can relate!Ā hiding under a rock.jpeg

And so now here I am an empty nester, feeling like I’m in my 30’s (due to a healthy diet and new tools), pursuing a singing career, to share my songs that flow out of me– sometimes from my wounded heart but mostly from the bright light of hope inside of me that knows my purpose on the planet is to write and sing music and also give hope to others who cannot find their way up and out of the painful layers that often feel too heavy to break through.

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As I write this I realize I’ve learned and sharpened so many tools since 2012:guitar yogaĀ  I learned ways to replenish and to re-energize my adrenals; continued my healthy diet; exercise regularly for strength and endurance; made myself more disciplined to practice my music as a priority; tap into spirit often to sharpen those innate intuitive skills and gifts; continue to write poetry and songs as I work through the emotional challenges;Ā  I have opened myself up to spiritual knowledge about ascension symptoms, upgrades to the planet, and even the effect of past lives on our current incarnations; practice extreme self-care as I continue to grow from life’s challenges and surprises, and remind myself that the rule #1 from this blog still applies and was really ground-breaking at that time.

And that is that Self-Compassion is rule #1!journal tea bed

I’m grateful to this blog for this all important bit of wisdom to come forth–because it was writing here to you all that caused this bit of wisdom to be born!

And so I say thank you to all of you that are part of this highly sensitive, compassionate, and spiritually awakened community of Hope and Healing from Childhood Wounds. I hope it continues to be a haven of safety for your wounded inner child to come and get strong–as a cocoon for you to grow your wings at your own pace and try out your new wings when you are feeling strong enough to go for your dreams.Ā  As always my message is:Ā  You Can Do It!! …And have compassion and kindness for yourself as the pain comes up to heal with each success! Because you are strong enough to feel it, comfort yourself through it, acknowledge that you absorbed negativity you didn’t deserve, release it, rest, and rise again!inner child

Rest here in this haven anytime you wish, and reach out to this community or just read the comments from the hundreds who have reached out with their stories of childhood wounds and emotional healing in the comment sections. I would love to hear from you!Ā  Please leave a comment to let me know you are helped by what I am sharing or if you are new to this community so that I can welcome you.

Wishing all of you comfort, inner peace, and so much love as you continue to heal,

Roxanne šŸ˜‡āœŒļøšŸŽ¶šŸ’–āœØ

Roxanne Smith – Folk Rock Songs For the Soul

 

 

 

To All Highly Sensitive Souls–You Are Loved

You Are Loved

Lyrics by Roxanne Smith

I once was lost but then I opened up my heart

It took time to see my journey’s sad start

Strength in me came with feelings inside

Courageous purging with joy on the other side

 

Somehow I know that love is all there is

Inside every dark and painful fear is bliss

This I know because I left no stone unturned

I face the pain when the bottom was learned

 

It lays waiting until you let it go

Forgiving those who don’t connect with their soul

The soul has answers and comfort and love

Go within to hear angels from above

 

Chorus:

They surround each and every breathing heart

You are loved every day right from the start.

You are loved, you are loved, you are loved, you are loved

You are loved, you are loved, you are loved, you are loved

 

Repeat from the beginning

 

Add end (slowing)

You are loved, you are loved, you are loved, you are loved

Original Song Ā© 2017 Roxanne Smith

 

Hello Everyone! I am sharing this song to the public for the first time here on this blog. It’s such a personal song I have not performed it yet, waiting for the perfect audience, the right moment. You all, however are the perfect audience for lyrics like these.Ā  Here on this blog I feel comfortable letting it all hang out and feel proud of the healing journey I am on with all it’s ups and downs but always “with joy on the other side”.

I just saw that it has been since April 5 that I have put out a blog post and I apologize for that! Time has been flying by since I decided to start my life coaching business back up. I just completed designing my brand new life coaching website.Ā  I’m happy to report that this blog has gotten over 45 new followers in just the last 2 months even though my recent posts were short and not really up to my standards yet.Ā  So I am getting the message that my blog posts here are important and to make them a priority in my life!

I am very excited about this.Ā  I love talking to you all!Ā  I love giving hope to all of you like-minded souls out there who resonate with my message of hope and healing to become your highest selves! We strive to be our healthiest, kindest, most confident, and helpful to the planet while being complex and highly sensitive souls who often feel we don’t fit in with others. We are overcoming deep-seated negative feelings and beliefs from the past that keep popping up out of the blue just when things are going well.Ā  Phew!Ā  Why are we so hard on ourselves when we already know that extreme self-care makes so much difference in our lives?

Time to pull back again. Get quiet. Go inward. Write out ALL your feelings with self-compassion as if you are writing to your most trusted friend in the world who really GETS you! Be your own container when you can’t find a safe person to vent to.Ā  We all need to vent all the frustration we are feeling about EVERYTHING! I had a surprising amount of anger to release in April. It was all about codependency issues that I thought I had healed long ago.Ā  Surprise!–there was more! Releasing it all (which was not easy) moved me to a new place of strength and independence at the core of me that I didn’t know existed.Ā  And the month of May… well it’s starting out with a virus from some recent airplane travel that has got me layed up and resting to clear it all out.Ā  So all my exciting plans for coaching and more performing are on hold while I rest and clear out this virus and with it lots of emotions too. My intuition tells me I’ve moved to a new level of vibrational success so I need to clear out more …whatever! 😳 I’m not as frustrated as I am fascinated and trusting that whatever happens it will be for a good reason.

Sometimes things are so hard and then we get through it and see the silver lining that was there all along. And that is that We Are Loved.Ā  We are loved from above. We are here for a good reason.Ā  We are highly sensitive souls who are here on the planet at this time because the planet needs our gifts, our light, our true essence. We can relax and just BE and know we are loved.

Just being here is enough.Ā  You don’t have to do anything–just heal and learn to love ourselves.Ā  If we really GET this we can recharge and become strong and then we have more energy to give more light and love to others. But we can’t do it if we don’t love ourselves first. Let the love in that is beaming down for you at all times. Believe it.

And if you can’t believe it at least be OPEN to the possibility. Let down your guard and allow the possibility that your guardian angel/spirit guide/God/ Universe/Highest SelfĀ  just might be sending you messages of love and comfort through your intuition.Ā  They just might be sending you guidance on your next steps for the highest good of your soul.Ā  Follow your heart to hear the inner guidance. Hear it? It is saying, You Are Loved! Exactly as you are! You don’t have to change yourself, you only need to love yourself. Let that sink in. Marinate in that truth for a while.Ā  I’m sending all of you so much comfort, caring, and encouragement to see your unique gifts as highly sensitive souls.Ā I’ll be writing more uplifting blog posts soon so stay tuned.

With love and light šŸ’–Ā āœØ,

Roxanne šŸ˜‡Ā šŸŽ¶

Part 2 Of My New Beginning Journey–How 2013 AMAZINGLY Gave Me Wings To Fly in 2014.

PART 2:

Your time as a caterpillar...

Hi Everyone. So much has happened since my last post, I want to update you about all that has transpired. In fall of 2012, I was drawn to look for a new family doctor for myself and just for fun googled Highly Sensitive Doctor in Indianapolis haha. Ā What I found was not a doctor who called himself highly sensitive but a doctor with amazing reviews from patients who said he was highly sensitive to their needs. Ā I made an appointment even though I felt I was in pretty good health at the time and didn’t really have any dire need–I just wanted a doctor who would understand and support my quest for the best holistic and alternative health care I could find.

I had to wait 3 months to get in with him but it was worth it. Ā He listened to all of my theories on how I had healed my food allergies, chronic fatigue, candidiasis, adrenal fatigue issues through holistic means and an anti-inflammatory gluten-free diet. I also shared how I was feeling pretty good considering my age and the impending hormonal changes. Ā He was impressed rather than skeptical and I was thrilled at his response. Ā Still he ordered a pretty extensive blood test to be sure and I am so glad he did. Ā The results came back that I had low thyroid function and had to be put on thyroid medication immediately!

Changes look negative, new to emergeThe amazing thing to me is it turned out he was a specialist in knowledge about the thyroid–the exact best person to help me with this particular condition! And so gave me a prescription for Armour thyroid which is the best naturally derived medication and it’s hard to find an open-minded Dr. who will prescribe it. Ā Another amazing thing was I didn’t have symptoms until I was waiting for those blood test results and I suddenly gained 15 pounds in 3 weeks even though I was eating extremely healthy and watching carbs and calories. Ā It was quite shocking to see my body react this way but also to know that I had the perfect kind of care at the exact right time.

And another amazing thing that happened was that during my first visit with that doctor a large Bald Eagle flew past the window and the Dr. was shocked and said Oh my gosh did you just see that?–with that I looked out the window and saw this beautiful majestic bald eagle flying in the air. This was in a busy neighborhood inside the city limits! Ā I was thrilled that the doctor felt as I did that this was quite an amazing and beautiful sight and agreed with me that maybe it had Ā been a special “sign” that I was in the right place at the right time–all this on the first visit before I found out about the thyroid issue!I Know that was you God...

Now at this point I am feeling really blessed and cared for from up above to be guided to just the right doctor at just the right time. Ā But I also had big questions now. Ā Why had I gotten thyroid problems with all my healthy lifestyle habits? Ā Well this doctor’s thorough questionnaire I had filled out helped me to see that I was working too much and I was feeling stressed even though I loved what I was doing, I was feeling pretty drained a lot of the time. Ā This is when my coaching was at a peak with a waiting list of clients and I was really loving all the success my inner child healing practice was doing for others and it was very fulfilling helping others heal.

When I did some research about low thyroid I found out that it is in the throat chakra which has to do with creative self-expression and I immediatelyĀ knew… Ā I hadn’t been singing. Ā All the songwriting had sort of stopped and I had been too busy with my coaching and I had stopped making time for my music. It was clear to me–I knew it deep inside–I am supposed to be singing and getting my then 40 (now over 50) original songs of hope and healing recorded and out to help others heal– as it was the songs that had helped me heal, Ā find my “voice”, and were the impetus to start the blogging and the coaching! Ā It had been the music that had started everything healing and moving forward to my vitality and inner peace and I realized I had neglected this important part of me. Ā So I cut back on my coaching and immediately felt better as I devoted time each week to resting, singing, and songwriting, and in May 2013 I started making professional recordings of my songs!follow your bliss, doors will open

At my second visit back with this doctor he gave me adrenal supplements and other vitamins saying it was the low adrenals affecting the thyroid and that he thought if I reduced stress and took care of myself I could gradually get off the thyroid medication. Ā And he was right! Ā I did it! Ā I worked on recording my songs all summer long and I also went to a new chiropractor who gave me Neuro-emotional Technique (NET) treatments each week. Ā By the end of summer I was completely off the thyroid medication! Ā And I still am! Ā Amazing!

Okay and there’s more amazing news. Ā That fall (2012) that I had just been put on thyroid medication I knew I wanted to do more singing but I wasn’t sure how I was going to move forward with it. Ā Well, one saturday night my husband and I decided to go to a little nearby bar that we had never been to before to listen to some live music. Ā And there was a young guy age 29 singing all of my favorite songs that I used to sing harmony to growing up and over the years. He was playing guitar and harmonica and was extremely talented but here he was in this little bar so I felt compelled to ask him if he’d be interested in helping me record my songs. Ā He said Yes! Ā He needed some extra money and I needed some professional help recording and guidance on how best to proceed with making an album.

Turns out that this guy turned out to be very professional indeed and the perfect guy to help me. Not only that, he slowly revealed to me as I got to know him, that he was very close to being signed with a music contract for his band with his original music, had met Clive Davis, had been flown to Hollywood several times, had opened for John Legend, and had many friends in the music business. Ā He is a songwriter too and he liked my songs and songwriting ability. Ā He liked my singing too but I had pretty bad stage fright to perform in public at that time and it was not even in my mind to attempt to overcome it–I was just planning to make an album, not perform.To live in fear…deny our dreams

But as our collaboration was working successfully, as my vocal coach he invited me to sing with him at his gigs so I could get used to performing! Ā At first it was one song, then 2, and by the end of the summer I was singing up to 8 songs with him at his gigs and had overcome my fear of performing on stage! Ā I got to sing harmony to my favorite songs from the Eagles, Bob Seger, John Mellencamp, Tom Petty etc., it was a dream come true! Ā And it was so much fun! (I have pictures of this on my music website).

The best part is he and I worked on my songs–we got 6 songs completely done, mixed, and produced by him, and he laid down the most beautiful guitar tracks for 22 more of my songs, and he taught me how to record and mix the rest of the songs by myself. Ā And with his encouragement I have been improving my own guitar playing skills as well so that I can start going to open mic nights while I record my songs. Ā And that’s what I am pursuing now!Words sing out

Wow, what a summer! Ā This fall and winter I have continued to write more songs and work on the albums and it is going really well! Ā I can’t wait to share my songs with all of you! Ā I have been working hard on this new music website and figuring out how to integrate all my work Ā so all my healing songs, coaching and blogging are easily accessible for those who will most find inspiration and healing from them.

Hole in my heartonly i can fillSo now I want to share with you a sample of an especially healing song from my new album A New Beginning that is one of my absolute favorites and I wrote it last summer. I hope you like it. Ā It’s call Hole In My Soul and here is a sample: Ā 

I am very excited to announce that all 6 professionally recorded healing songs from my new album are now available for purchase with free samples of each song for you to listen to first! Ā You can buy downloads of the songs there on the website www.RoxanneSmithMusic.com–all proceeds will go to continuing my work to help others heal from childhood emotional pain. Ā It’s a great cause! Ā I highly recommend playing the songs especially in the morning each day as you get ready–it will change your mood for the day and has a healing effect. Ā Many people have told me this and I have experienced it myself with my own songs which I feel were somehow “given” to me from “above” when I wrote them–they healed something deep inside. Think of it as part of your extreme-self-care healing routine each day which is so important for us survivors of childhood trauma. Ā We need to do extra kind and comforting things for ourselves each day! Ā These songs were written for you! Ā Please try it and let me know how it works for you. Ā My second album, Songs of Hope and Healing will have the most deeply healing songs on it and it is in the works as soon as this first album is complete. Ā I will be releasing each song individually as it gets finished so keep checking back for more song releases.

Thank you for reading today and please like my facebook community page (if you like it) called Higher Ground Haven– I haveĀ now attached it to this blog so that our community can reach out and grow and connect in even more ways than before. Ā I look forward to your comments and to meeting and seeing you on facebook where I will be posting updates and information about healing childhood wounds, narcissistic parents, highly sensitive people (HSPs), unblocking your creativity, and how to go for your dreams, as well as videos of me and my music. Ā Remember, you can create the life you desire in your heart. Ā You are a shining light of compassion and love. Ā You deserve comfort, encouragement, compassion, and a community of safety and healing support that we all missed out on as children. I hope you find all of that here on myĀ blog as your new Hope and Healing Haven. šŸ˜€You are important, you matter

Sending all of you much love and light and deep caring,

Roxanne

A New Beginning For This Blog As We Continue Healing Our Childhood Wounds

Sharing our story sets us free

Hi everyone. I have an announcement to make but first I want to thank all of you who have followed this blog and who have shared your stories and have felt part of this community of hope and healing. It was years ago in January 2010 that I started this blog and many of you have grown and evolved with me as we have shared and healed our childhood wounds together. Ā I want to fill you in on the details and the big changes ahead for this blog. Yes, it is time for some exciting new changes and the biggest one is that I want to reveal my real name and take ownership of this blog that I am so proud of.

I have been upfront since the first day of this blog saying on my About page that I was using a PEN name. Elaine D. Sanders. I chose this special name so that I could write uninhibitedly about my journey in emotional healing and so that I could help others who are struggling to find and express their true voice as well. Ā My pen name served me well and I have no regrets about being known as Elaine and proudly using this name for my life coaching business that came about because of the success of helping others through this blog.use your voice…brave…live life imagined

Now I am stepping fully into the light with my real legal name and claiming my story. Ā I feel and hope this will be very empowering for others who are healing from childhood wounds as well. It is with love and compassion and gratefulness in my heart that I share this information with you, my followers and readers, because I know you will understand and support this new venture of empowerment for all of us to step into our truth, and be unafraid to speak up with our true voice about our childhood experiences and our healing journeys. There is no shame in telling your story, nothing to fear when you speak up for yourself about times you felt diminished and unloved as a child. Ā Telling the truth and coming out of hiding is the right thing to do and doing so will support others to do the same.

My middle name really is Elaine. Ā I love the name and when I first decided to start this blog I was proud to find out that the meaning of the name Elaine is “shining light”. Ā My legal first name is Roxanne and I was thrilled to find out the meaning of Roxanne is “dawn”–light of a new day-a new beginning. Right now I am gradually changing all posts and comments from Elaine to Roxanne. Ā It will take a while to complete the change and until then I hope all will be understood.Ā Being yourself…is easier

Some might ask, with the great success of this blog why not stay Elaine? Ā Well, about a year and a half ago, I wanted my grown children and husband to be able to tell of my new successful career as a life coach and singer/songwriter without having to tell a long story of why I had a pen name. Also, I wanted to start a home community life coaching business and I also wanted to be close to my family (and also to this new support network) through facebook. Ā So I started a home community life coaching website, a new blog with more songs, a personal facebook page and community facebook page in my legal name that I go by on a daily basis with close friends, my husband and kids. Through this experiment I eventually realized I now felt uninhibited to talk about inner child healing and my own healing journey with great confidence– I was able to do both and go back and forth to both blogs and websites with ease for quite a while. Ā I gradually saw how I was dividing myself and my energies. Ā Recently it came clear how I could integrate everything to my legal name and that this would be very empowering for all for me to do this. My energies of late had been mostly with my new creative ventures in my world as myself, Roxanne E. Smith. Ā I am now ready to come out on this blog and say this is who I am, this is what I experienced, and this is how I recovered, and I want to be a role model to help others to come out and express their true voice as well.Owning our story…brave..our light

Upon beginning to write about my past, I had no idea that this blog would be so helpful to others as it has become. Ā My intention was and is to help and support others by sharing my experience and journey of emotional healing. Ā I have no resentment, anger, or bitterness towards any people from my past. I do not carry any hard feelings towards them and I wish them only peace and love. Ā I believe I may have chosen everything that happened to me because I knew my soul was strong enough to recover so that I could help others. Ā I am now grateful for everything that has ever happened to me for now I am on this path of enlightenment and helping others see their beautiful shining light within that is underneath the layers of pain and self-doubt. I believe helping souls to break through to their true essence is my true purpose in life. Ā I have come to a place where I know that the absence of light experienced as children is because parents and caregivers of children may have had atrocities and abuses from their own childhood that may have caused aĀ completeĀ separation from their own light. Ā We absorbed all that darkness as Ā highly sensitive gifted children but now, after emotional healing, we can now give that light back to ourselves — as for myself, it was only through much inner grief work that I recovered and this is what I now help others through my work–through blogging, life coaching, and through sharing my healing songs and their lyrics.

The truth will set us freeI shared my honest feelings on this blog becauseĀ this was my experienceĀ and it was this candidness that most helped people relate their own feelings and stories and heal on a deep level. Many of my songs continue to reflect the painful journey to wholeness and joy from a childhood of feeling lost–I feel it was through the gift of music and creative song writing that I was able to heal and express my voice and this self expression continues to heal me as well as others. Ā I have continued to write and record more healing songs recently and this is the project that has kept me busy this past year.follow fire in heart…passion is your purpose

I have a new music website for my newly created and professionally recorded Album–A New Beginning!Ā Ā I am excited to share with you my songs which are my new passion and focus as of right now and my album of 10 professionally recorded songs is now available for download and also on iTunes, Spotify, Amazon, and many other sites worldwide.

Other changes on this blog and my websites include the adding of a link to my facebook community page called Higher Ground Haven. So please check it out by finding it on the right side of the page and clicking on the name of it–you don’t have to be on facebook to enjoy it–it is open to the public and will just be another means of support for this community. Ā Sometimes in winds…. find our direction

There will be a new name for this blog–it is being changed from Hope and Healing with Elaine toĀ Hope and Healing Haven. Ā I hope you like it and will remember it easily. Ā I think it is a great fit! Ā The domain name is going back to hopehealing.wordpress.com. Elainedsanders.com will no longer be. Ā I won’t be taking new clients for an indefinite period of time because my singing/songwriting career is taking center stage in my life right now and I will be sharing my song lyrics which are self-help poetry put to music as I embark on this new career.

I hope that you will enjoy embarking with me on this NEW BEGINNING journey. Ā My song A NEW BEGINNING has new meaning now as it has been rerecorded professionally and is the perfect tribute to this new phase of this Hope and Healing Blog that I hope will continue to be a Haven for all souls seeking healing from their childhood wounds and empowerment to find their true voice and true self.like the End of world is a new beginning Please enjoy listening to a sample of A New Beginning below: Ā press > play to hear Another song I’d like to share is called “I’m All Right”–you can listen to a sample of it below:

My new music website is finished and it is ready to share with you, you may visit it here:Ā RoxanneSmithMusic.com. 10 professionally recorded healing songs from my new album are now finalized and available for purchase with free samples of each song for you to listen to first! Ā You can buy downloads of the songs there on the website–all proceeds will go to continuing my work to help others heal from childhood emotional pain. Ā It’s a great cause! Ā I highly recommend playing the songs especially in the morning each day as you get ready–it will change your mood for the day and has a healing effect. Think of it as part of your extreme-self-care healing routine each day which is so important for highly sensitive survivors. Ā We need to do extra kind things for ourselves each day! Ā Please try it and let me know how it works for you–I welcome the testimonials!

Thank you for reading today. Ā I am excited to re-connect with all of you survivors who are searching for emotional guidance and a safe place to feel connected and to heal from the past. Ā This is a wonderful community to be a part of and I feel truly blessed and grateful. Welcome To Hope and Healing Haven!

With love, blessings, and warmest caring wishes,

Roxanne

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Roxanne
Submitted onĀ 2014/02/11 at 12:59 pmĀ | In reply toĀ Judy.

Thank you so much, Judy! That’s wonderful that you will be joining me! You are an important part of this community and I appreciate your support and participation as we journey ahead! With love and light, Roxanne

Judy theprojectbyjudy.wordpress.com
Submitted onĀ 2014/02/10 at 2:26 pm

Congratulations. I’m looking forward to step onto this new path with you.

Roxanne
Submitted onĀ 2014/02/09 at 4:58 pmĀ | In reply toĀ Alec.

Hi Alec! Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement! Yes, I’ve got new wings to fly higher!–I hope it is ā€œupliftingā€ for all! Stay tuned for my next post in 2 days–it’s about my ā€œamazingā€ past year.

Alec
Submitted onĀ 2014/02/09 at 8:32 am

This a great step! Well done! You are flying on an amazing trajectory!

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Here is an edited version of the original “About Me” when I was using a pen name, written in December 2009 and used through February 2014 (the original was changed a few times over the years ):

Hello and Welcome! Ā Elaine is a name that has special significance to me and I have chosen this Pen name because it will make it easier to be completely honest and uninhibited in all my writing. My wonderful supportive husband and I have both had many childhood wounds to heal and overcome and we have made a new wonderful life and have raised two amazing children.

I have a Bachelor of Science degree inĀ Child and Family Services with emphasis in humanistic counseling psychology, sociology,Ā  family dynamics, and child development. Ā There was nothing more important to me than raising children with high self-esteem and to be emotionally healthy, and breaking the cycle of emotional repression that has been passed down for generations through our extended families.Ā  Our children are in college and beyond now, adjusting well to all of life’s demands, and my husband and I couldn’t be prouder of them, not just because of their accomplishments and achievements but because of the relationships we have withĀ them and the caring, loving people they have become.Ā  We are supportive and encouraging of whatever they choose to do with their lives and we are there for them to listen to their feelings and they in turn are supportive and encouraging to us and grateful and loving human beings.

I have discovered many things along the way to building a healthy family and finding my true purpose in life.Ā  I have discovered I am an INFJ, an empath, a highly sensitive person, an avid journaler, writer of self-help poetry,Ā and a singer/songwriter writing many songs–including my songs of hope and healing.Ā  These songs were writtenĀ mostly to help myself through the pain from my many childhood wounds and the ups and downs of life.Ā Most of all, I have discovered the depth of my skills as an Empathic Life Coach.Ā  With this, I have discovered my true purpose in life-all my skills of writing and singing and songwriting have been catalysts in helping me express and find my true voice–to realize that my true purpose is empowering other highly sensitive souls to heal from their wounds from childhood and become the person they areĀ meant to be.

I feel it as a privilege for me to provide comfort and support to any soulĀ who is in emotional painĀ and to let them know there is hope and someone out there who understands.Ā With the help of this website,Ā Ā it isĀ my hope to validate, inspire, and give hope to peopleĀ through my writing,Ā  my music, and my availability to youĀ as an EmpathicĀ Life Coach. Ā  So often a person just needs a companion to listen–someone to validate the complex and confusingĀ painful feelings that come up when childhood wounds are triggered and then keep us from moving forward to become our true selves. Ā Our blog community strives to be an “enlightened witness”Ā  for any person who needs to be heard aboutĀ childhood wounds or if you have no family members or friends who understand you. Ā Please check out the comment sections of each post which contain lots of guidance and sharing of experiences. We understand and we care. Welcome to our community!

With love,

Roxanne

NOW Is A Good Time… For Emotional Healing

Hi everyone! Ā Now that it’sĀ Spring, theĀ warmthĀ is finally here in the midwestern part of the USA! Ā Yay!! Ā I feel happier when the temperatures are warmer and I can get outside and enjoy nature and recharge. Ā As a HSP healing from childhood wounds, I am still figuring out what makes me happiest and what I “like” most in life–right now I like thinking about some day moving to a warmer climate during the winter months! Ā šŸ˜‰

As HSP children, your “job” may have been to often to take care of your own parents’ feelings so you didn’t dare even ask yourself “What do I want?, How do I feel?, and What are my dreams and desires? Ā Perhaps it can be Ā “fun” now to “create” a life for yourself that is purely satisfying to “you”. Ā This is not being selfish for HSPs who have spent their lives putting others’ feelings and happiness first. Ā This is realizingĀ yourĀ feelings and desires are meant to be your “compass” for finding direction and satisfaction in your life!

Even after all of your recovery and replacing a negative inner critic with a very consistent feeling of love and protection for yourself and you inner child, do you still sometimes wake up with a feeling of shame that surprises you? Ā It may usually happen after a day when you really asserted your voice and followed your heart (I have written about this before). Try to see that as evidence of how your shining light as a child may have been a threat to a narcissistic or bullying Ā caretakers and they had to bring you “down”. Ā “Get off of your high horse!”, “Who do you think you are!?”, “How dare you be happy when I am not happy!?”, Ā and “Straighten up and fly right!”–Were these phrases (spoken or implied silently with mean looks (angry eyes)) ones that come to mind that were a daily occurrence to shame and control you as a child?

Now that you may be working on changing the core beliefs about yourself, it is also helpful to reframe all those events with how youĀ would have voiced your opposition if you had felt safe and knew you were loved and supported by the Universe. Ā Talking back to the inner critic is acknowledging it is there and then saying what you need to say to yourself to be an emotionally healthy soul–say, “I like being on my high horse!–it is good to feel proud of myself!”, “I think I am an amazing and gifted person!”, “Everyone is free to pursue their own happiness–it’s in the Constitution!”, and “Your right way and my right way are 2 different things!” Ā If you had felt safe and strong as a child and had been able to say these things in your childhood without being shamed and punished, then your true self would have survived and you would not have had to push your feelings underground and develop a false self that was fearful and obedient. Ā You can say it NOW and reclaim your strength that it didn’t feel safe for you to have. It is very healing to your wounded soul when you express the truth about yourself, either silently, out loud, or in a journal–express your true voice!

Just realizing you have an inner critic that stops you from enjoying your life and feeling good about yourself is the first step–writing out all the mixed messages swimming around your brain and getting them on paper in a journal will help you to realize that your inner critic has taken over. Ā I no longer have to journal to realize when I am listening to my inner critic–I recognize the negative feeling right away, acknowledge it, and say to myself Ā “that is ridiculous and that is not true about me!”

The real truth is I am a shining light of God’s love and I am perfect just the way I am! Ā You are perfect just the way you are too! There is nothing wrong with you! Ā You just have self-doubt– “doubt” just means questioning the truth–the truth is there but it takes courage to Believe It! Ā Believe it because it is true–you are perfect exactly as you are NOW in this moment! Ā And you deserve the LOVE, COMFORT, COMPASSION, and ENCOURAGEMENT that you never got during childhood. Ā You can learn to give it to yourself!

For myself, any shame feeling I get in the morning goes away immediately as I shoo it away and replace it with love for myself and with my new core beliefs: “This shame is not mine and not true and I have nothing to be ashamed of!” Ā Poof! Ā Gone! I also say, “Wow, I must have done something amazing and authentically me yesterday, I am on the right path!” Ā Then I can’t wait to get up and enjoy my day, my way! Ā I love my life and I am grateful that I am free to enjoy it now.

I feel my true purpose is to help others who are struggling to love themselves because of these very complex, negative messages that were engrained in their brains since early childhood. Ā It is not easy but growing new loving neural pathways in your brain is possible and I am living proof. Ā I hope that by my example I can help those of you struggling, suffering, and occasionally falling into pits of despair to climb out and break free from the negative energy “soup” that can engulf the soul of an emotionally needy HSP. Ā It takes time so please be patient with yourself if you fall backwards sometimes.

The key is to keep on feeling the feelings and comforting yourself through them–it is a grieving process. Ā You will come out the other side–to truth, light, and a connection to the Universe that no one can ever take away from you–it is innate in you and as a HSP you are a loved and highly evolved soul with compassion and light for others as your greatest gift. Ā You are going to be okay if you allow yourself to believe these things NOW–start today. Ā I am here, I understand–I have been lost, and now I am found. Ā NOW is the time to begin to love yourself without shame. You can do it! Ā This blog post was written for YOU!

After a weekend visit with our grown son who lives in Chicago, I felt energized, so energized that I wrote a new poem–even though I am a pretty extreme introvert and we had a very extraversion-filled weekend. Ā I was energized because of the quality of the relationship we have with our son and we all so enjoyed each others company and enjoyed being positive, building each other up, expressing our love and appreciation for each other, and having fun together. Ā So when we returned I was standing in my kitchen and had to grab paper and a pen because I felt this poem just had to be expressed. Ā I just let it flow out of me and when I was done I realized I was still “standing up” in my kitchen! (leaning against the counter šŸ™‚ ) Ā I am so glad I listened to that still small voice in my head that said to write this down. Ā Here is the poem that flowed out of me that cold, winter, sunday evening after our trip:

NOW Is A Good Time

By Roxanne Smith

Feb. 18, 2013

NOW’s a good time to nurture yourself and your feelings

To release the past and all painful dealings.

The pain’s coming up NOW so you’ll see the truth

of how you weren’t seen and loved in your youth.

The child inside, he or she yearns to be free.

The pain is just blocking your feelings of glee.

Joy and great gladness are all waiting there.

Waiting until you feel the truth and despair.

What happened to you was awful and sick

The pain you repressed was unbearable and thick.

You were too small and dependent back then

but now you are safe so the wounds can open

and your soul wants to heal these wounds from within.

You cannot move higher until you tell the truth of your kin.

How they poked you and pulled you down each time you succeeded

’til you gave up and blamed yourself… but they weren’t what you needed.

You were a bright star with a higher energy.

They were jealous and threatened by your desire to be free.

So you hid your true self until a much safer time–

It’s safe NOW so your soul is crying out as a sign

to be kind to your inner child who is coming out—please allow!

Don’t beat yourself up for feeling bad NOW.

Because you’re rising up from patterns ingrained in your head.

New ways of being are in your soul, time to shed

all the old pain, it must be felt to be released.

It is gone forever once you see the danger has ceased.

The danger was real then, don’t ever forget it

but now you choose new friends who are not like your inner critic.

You are learning your true self is a compassionate soul

who is kind to others and that is your role.

So being kind to your self is the very first step.

All day everyday you must give yourself pep!

Don’t listen to your inner critic—it is wrong and so mean

like those who abused you and weren’t nice as they seem.

You deserved better and NOW you must give it to your soul.

The more you are kind, the more you’ll feel Whole!

Each layer of pain will dissolve as you express

all of your confusion and unhappiness.

How could this be… you thought: ā€œI was bad and wrongā€

but really blaming ā€œYOUā€ was unfair all along.

You were a bright light never harming a flea–

so easy to control because you trusted completely.

I hope you can see that you can reframe your past.

Replace those mean moments with self-love that will last.

Accepting Love from Above will change your beliefs about your core.

Who you are YOU must love so your dreams can then soar!

You are gifted and brilliant, a gift to us all.

You are treasured by those others who also feel this call.

The call’s mixed with pain and feeling bad about your childhood.

When you change your beliefs you will see your soul’s all Good!

Then you can reconnect with your self and find creativity and fun.

You’ll learn to relax and recharge from the sun.

Learn to listen to your body instead of working too hard.

You’ll get lots more done when you ā€œplayā€ in your yard.

Allowing yourself to enjoy being you

will slow you down and allow the pain to come through.

After a good cry, each time you’ll feel better–

lighter and lighter ā€˜til you’re light as a feather.

And allowing yourself to have space that is yours—

new boundaries to protect yourself will help open doors.

You must learn to feel grounded and connected to the earth.

This will help you feel solid and put yourself first.

You deserve to be happy and that starts with self-care.

After you are grounded, then you will become aware

that lifting up others is your gift and your purpose

and there’s a billion others out there who are not just kind on the surface.

They are deep and compassionate—you are not alone.

We are healing together as we feel grace and atone.

We did our best with all that we have known.

NOW we know it’s okay to be angry, then let it go.

Don’t hold onto blame, but blame needs to be spoken.

Release it and move on—don’t yell at the broken.

You are higher than they are (those who brought you down).

You don’t need to punish—you can just leave town

to start a new life and create all that your dreams can arrange.

Move forward… not fixing those who don’t want to change.

Trust these new feelings that spark in your heart.

Healing is painful but that’s only part.

This feeling’s inside that you’re finally alive!

Keep going with following your passions inside.

Don’t compare yourself to others—you have a new gig!

Let desires be your guide and your success will be BIG.

If you do this and trust your intuition inside

your internal guidance will help you to thrive.

Sometimes you’ll get stuck so you’ll need to be kind

to yourself when you inner critic starts messing with you mind.

Drop down to your heart instead of your head.

If you need to cry about something that was said,

grieve for this loss, the wrong path where you were led.

It hurt you so much, childhood pain must be shed

so we can see, that NOW we’re safe and free

And we would have parented differently!

And that’s good you are different and unique and that’s great!

I hope you can see that it’s never too late.

We often must go backward to move forward to be free.

You can heal and find wholeness—take it from me!

I found here a community of souls who relate–

I share how I healed and how sensitivity is great!

By journaling out the pain, I had new eyes to see.

My true voice was found, then my true self was free!

I know it sounds simple but it took a long time.

Try to trust in your feelings, then all will be fine.

As I followed my pain I got signs from above:

ā€œrelax and enjoyā€ and best ā€œYou are loved!ā€

I know of your pain– I know just how you feel.

It happened to me and I learned how to heal

So NOW as you journey from wounded to whole

I hope that these words will comfort your soul.

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Please share your feelings in a comment if this post resonates with you. Ā Your comments also help others who are still struggling to find their voice. Ā We can help uplift each other higher as a community of compassionate souls. Ā Thank you for reading. Ā Have a wonderful Spring–may the warmth of the Universe envelope you and comfort you NOW as you heal and grow to your true potential.

With love, light, and my deepest compassion,

Roxanne

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